Oh Canada!

[greendayfan]

For those few who didn't know, my mom's sister who lives in Canada turned 50 last Saturday. About 2 months ago, her family (mainly one of her sons) started scheming and planned a surprise family get together for her at a restuarant. Over 40 people came from all over the US, from Tennessee to Washington, plus some family from central Canada, came

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[godsamiga]

I can understand both sides of this. I can understand him wanting to try to start a relationship up and I can understand you feeling uncomfortable. You also might get lucky and he'll go back to being invisible again! My opinion is that the way he was going about it was inappropriate. But that may be because I have STRONG feelings about hugs and force hugs and holding hugs for too long...*shudders* For one, I think a brief hug or a side hug is what's appropriate. And I also think that after 16 years he should be going slowly and trying to get to know you and become your friend first. I do think he acted weirdly but, again, I have strong feelings about certain things. However I am not saying you shouldn't give him a chance. He is family after all-even if only by blood. If he does continue to want to be a grandpa and you decide to give him a chance then I would definitely say that you should let him know what makes you uncomfortable-the long hugs, him being more of a stranger to you, etc. If he really cares about you as a grandaughter

[lp10587]

I think that there's never too long of a time gap to ever start a relationship back up again. I can understand why you might feel the way you do. It's legitimate. To me it just seemed he was an old guy trying too hard to repair a relationship that really didn't develop in the first place. Nothing harmful though. You might wanna try to kill the little part of you that wants to hold a grudge against him.....I think it's always good to give people chances in spite of the past.

[jennybean6857]

Well i do think that he was a little inapropriate only because its seems like he acted as though he should be your buddy. so i can understand your feeling of being uncomfortable around him. He probalby wanst trying to make you uncomfortable, maybe he wanted to make up for years lost. and perhaps it is possible to mend it if both of you allow it, and forgive him for not being there for 16 years. i dunno i think i'm just repeating what amy and jared said.

[lp10587]

That's Amy up there? I never knew who "godsamiga" was, I just saw her comments on here all the time! Hi Amy! lol

[slugbug1]

i was gonna type something new, but Jared pretty much said exactly what i was going to say. i think he was just trying really hard and didnt really know the right way of going about things. its never too late to get to know someone