What's in a name... aside from lots of stuff

[gringageek]

Oh, thank God. If not for podcasts like "Stuff Your Mom Never Told You" and the wedding blog, "A Practical Wedding," I may have thought I was going crazy. Thank heavens for the internet, where I can be connected with other crazies

Comments

[alycorn]

I hate how whether or not one person takes the other's name is so tied in to who's the "boss" in the relationship and all that. Can't a man take his wife's name without being subjected to ribbing from his friends? Can't you hyphenate or even keep your own original names without nosy people wondering what's wrong with the relationship?

Names are hard. Think over it, you guys can surely work out a solution that's best for both of you, and screw what outsiders think about it!

[spiffystuff]

I know I don't want to change my last name when I get married :P

I've been pondering splitting the kid naming thing, either boys get his name girls get my name, or alternating I guess.

If you just have one could always rock-paper-scissors it! ;D

[siadea]

*growls*

The answer to any inquiries about that, I think, is "Yes, because God forbid my wife and I be equal in our relationship." Expose that damn misogyny for what it is.

[kitan]

Y'know what other couples have different last names? Professors and doctors, because they need to maintain publication records and professional licenses. The majority of my married grad students and two-professor couples have different last names. There are a few exceptions, but it's very common, and a lot of them are from "traditional" cultures. So it's not just a feminist thing, it's an over-educated thing. :D

[ewanspotter]

Clearly you are uncomfortable with changing it, do don't push that aside, or let him or society tell you otherwise. If he's not comfortable with changing his, or combining, that's his decision, but keep yours. It's not 1944. :)