Comments | grubbyfeet: stupid teenager

grubbyfeet

stupid teenager

Jan 12, 2010 14:18

Ok..this should be the last real post where I complain about what an asshole my son can be. He turned 18 on sunday and is now no longer in my house. This was totally his choice. We talked to him months ago and said that after he turned 18, he was welcome to stay here and pay rent if he followed rules. It started looking like he might, then it began ( Read more... )

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your_lifeis_now January 12 2010, 20:38:14 UTC

I think one of the most loving things a mother can ever do for her child is to let them go out and fall flat smack on their stubborn little butts. It doesn't mean that they will ever thank you for it, and it doesn't make it easy, in fact it's probably one of the toughest things that you have to do as a parent, but I think it is ultimately one of the most courageous, kindest and loving acts that you can do for him.

Letting go is never easy, especially when you know that the lessons that your son is seeking out are going to be tough, probably painful ones. As far as I'm concerned, you get to bitch, moan, whine, cry, complain and process this as much as you want.

You and your entire family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

grubbyfeet January 13 2010, 00:35:21 UTC

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers. They are and I am sure will be needed.

And thanks for the conversations and support. It helps more than you know.

What I hate is that my fuse is so short right now. I'm in an ok mood, but I snap when I snap, if that makes any sense.

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grubbyfeet January 13 2010, 00:36:07 UTC

This is my hope too, and I know over time, he will be. Once he gets his shit together, he will be great!

sylvan January 12 2010, 23:45:43 UTC

Would it be too bitchy to say some of his behavior reminds me of his father?

*hug* I'm sorry you're going through a hard time with him.

grubbyfeet January 13 2010, 00:30:43 UTC

I don't think it's bitchy at all. Sometimes it freaks me right the hell out how much he reminds me of Jason. How the hell does that happen?? It is the weirdest thing. I don't think they have spent even 2 whole years together spread out over his whole life. UGH. Sorry.
It would have been bitchy had you said something about how much his behavior reminds you of us when we were that age! LOL Or "hey Jen...that sounds like YOU!!"

Thanks for the hugs. Hugs right back atcha for all the drama that is swirling around you out there too :-)

saberbabe January 13 2010, 02:46:41 UTC

~hugs~ phreakster. I have can't really give advice on how to handle any of this...but I think I would do the right thing if I was in your shoes.

Sometimes we have to get away to realize how easy things really were.

saberbabe January 13 2010, 03:26:32 UTC

OOps. I meant 'same' thing instead of right thing. My hands are thinking faster than my brain...or my brains thinking faster than my hands. ~laughs~

barkeep_nd January 13 2010, 03:17:17 UTC

he's got to learn sometime that the good things in life need to be earned. it certainly isn't easy to be the 'bad guy' but it is necessary. Yer doing the right things. You KNOW yer doing the right things. Try not to beat yerself up about it (that isn't always easy). Eventually he'll figure things out. Until then stay tough.. that's the best thing you can do for him.

the best thing you can do for yerself is revel in the love that little girls have for mommy. :)