Breakup from Hell aka Im a Free. Bitch.
So some of you may or may not be aware of the fact that I was dating Mindy aka fizzy_buzz for the last like 3 and a half months. Well...recently I became more aware of the fact that the relationship was completely unhealthy. She would get mad at me if I could only talk for like 20 mins and not 3 hours, she would lash out with really hurtful shit "YOUR BIPOLAR IS RUINING OUR RELATIONSHIP", she would go on and on about how I was her "everything" and how her life was nothing without me. (3 MONTHS Y'ALL. NOT YEARS.) For fucks sake, she was starting to plan our wedding. No, Im not exaggerating. One of my favorites was when we were supposed to hang out one night so I got online and she wasnt there so I went to take a nap and stayed asleep since I was fucking exhausted. I then woke up to 60 missed calls and 10 angry/frantic/pleading voicemails. I was like What. The. Fuck.
It wasn't until she sent me a text that said "Call me by 5pm your time or else I will take this whole bottle of sleeping pills. I'll do it, don't test me" (and then proceeded to ignore my texts so I would think she was dead and "to make me feel bad" ...her words) that it hit me how fucking emotionally manipulative she had been and how completely Not Ok. all this shit was. I sat down and had a talk with Jess about what was going on and what I should do. She helped me make a list of issues~ in the relationship so I wouldnt forget anything when I called Mindy to break up with her. So I called her on Sunday and it...went about as well as I expected. Which is to say that she completely broke down and was pleading etc. I told her that I didn't think that we could be friends still since I knew that she would just try and get me back and keep referencing the relationship. And well what do you know, she IMed me and was all "Can we still be friends? If we are friends, maybe I can make you love me" to which I literally responded "no no no no no" and blocked her ass. I proceeded to block all her AIM screen names and both of her twitter accounts. I went on to change shit that still reminded me of her or connected me with her since all I wanted was a clean break and to move the fuck on. This included my shop name at hogwartsishome since it referenced an inside thing b/n us. About...15 minutes after I did this I got an email from her:
You changed your shop name? That was a low blow. Well, fuck you then. You just can't stop hurting me can you? It's like you get some sick pleasure out of destroying me. Well there is only so much I can take. I know you dont care about me, because you are fucking singing on twitter as I cry my heart out. Fuck you. I gave you all my heart and more. I love you far more than you fucking deserve. I am not gonna spend the rest of my life waiting for you to come back. I can't deal with this shit. I've left my parents a note telling them what happened, so don't bother phoning my house, you won't received a very friendly answer. People tend not to like those responsible for deaths in the family. I don't want you at my funeral. I don't want you to pass on music requests. I hope you fucking remember what you did to me for the rest of your fucking life.
Oh, and just so you know. I drank the pills and bleach, using 10 fucking cups. (reference to a tarot reading she had about our relationship~) Oh and are you curious how she knew what I was doing on my locked twitter account when I had blocked her ass? More on that soon.
She then proceeded to throw in anyone's face who tried to IM her and talk to her that no one knew her parent's address and so we couldnt call the police. I was upset but thank god I had multiple peole reminding me that none of this was my fault and that I did the right thing by breaking up with her and I wasnt responsible for her actions after I did so.
On Monday, Mindy's main AIM screen name suddenly came online. Alicia IMed her to see wtaf was going on. She claimed to be Mindy's sister Michaela and said that Mindy had Oded on a shit ton of morphine and bleach but that her dad found her and brought her to the hospital where she had her stomach pumped but still had a heart attack. But one thing that she said really set off bells in my head. "She did mention one other thing though at the hospital, when she was babbling. It's probably not important. But something about you and Liz emailing people? I think thats why she thought you didn't care any more." This was in reference to Liz and I reporting her ass to the HiH Mods for her sock account she had. (OH HAI ZEN_LANE33~) You might wonder how she knew? Well she had Liz's LJ password from a while back and it just so happened that it was the same as her gmail. Mindy actively tried to get into Liz's email and read through her inbox and sent emails and saw the email Liz sent and my email that I had forwarded to Liz. These were all sent after her supposed attempt and happened when she would have been getting her stomach pumped. I'm quite curious how one is able to hijack accounts while drifting in and out of consciousness at a hospital, aren't you?
So I have to trot off at this point to go to a therapists appt (WHICH I HAD NEVER BEEN HAPPIER TO GO TO, LET ME TELL YOU INTERNETS) and when I got out, I saw that I had an IM from her "sister" Ok. I am concerned. I do not want to tell my sister a lie. Do you care or not? Because I'M A FREE BITCH suggests not. Now I understand why she didn't want me to tell you. I am disappointed. BITCH IS NOW FUCKING QUOTING MY LOCKED TWITTER AT ME. So she is hacking into someone's twitter account to stalk me? CLASSY. Why would her sister do that? I met her for an hour. This is def Mindy. This whole suicide attempt was def bullshit. So I tweeted people warning them to change their passwords if there was a chance that she knew them. I then said the following: HI MINDY. HOW ARE YOU? CAN YOU SEE THIS? WHOSE ACCOUNT ARE YOU HACKING INTO TO READ MY TWEETS? [wherein I warn people to change passwords and that I suspect shit is fake]FUCK YOU MINDY THIS IS WHY I DUMPED YOU. EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION IS FUCKING NOT COOL. OH AND SINCE YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT "IM A FREE BITCH" IM HAPPY TO BE OUT OF AN UNHEALTHY, EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATIVE RELATIONSHIP. THIS DOESN'T MEAN I WISH YOU DEAD. I got a DM 2 hours later from gryffloins (aka the Gryff Reminder Twitter thing) gryffloins: Mindy left her twitter account open. I haven't hacked into anyone's account. I should never have bothered calling you. OIC. RIIIITE. I immediately IMed rhye who normally updates loins to warn her that Mindy was stalking me through it and that she should change the password.
Then I got a voicemail this morning from Mindy where she admitted that she faked the suicide attempt and that I was right to dump her and that our relationship was flawed and she never sought psych help even when she told me she did. She said that she is never coming back on twitter/LJ/AIM and that she's changing her cell # and won't bother me again. You know what? I'll fucking believe this when I see it. It sure as hell isn't going to stop me from doing the protective spells that Jess and I had planned and it won't stop me from freezing her ass. If she actually seeks help...good for her. But I don't give a shit anymore. I'm done. AND I'M FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. \O/
TL;DR MY EX IS A CRAZY BITCH AND THAT WAS AN INTERESTING~ BREAK UP.
It wasn't until she sent me a text that said "Call me by 5pm your time or else I will take this whole bottle of sleeping pills. I'll do it, don't test me" (and then proceeded to ignore my texts so I would think she was dead and "to make me feel bad" ...her words) that it hit me how fucking emotionally manipulative she had been and how completely Not Ok. all this shit was. I sat down and had a talk with Jess about what was going on and what I should do. She helped me make a list of issues~ in the relationship so I wouldnt forget anything when I called Mindy to break up with her. So I called her on Sunday and it...went about as well as I expected. Which is to say that she completely broke down and was pleading etc. I told her that I didn't think that we could be friends still since I knew that she would just try and get me back and keep referencing the relationship. And well what do you know, she IMed me and was all "Can we still be friends? If we are friends, maybe I can make you love me" to which I literally responded "no no no no no" and blocked her ass. I proceeded to block all her AIM screen names and both of her twitter accounts. I went on to change shit that still reminded me of her or connected me with her since all I wanted was a clean break and to move the fuck on. This included my shop name at hogwartsishome since it referenced an inside thing b/n us. About...15 minutes after I did this I got an email from her:
You changed your shop name? That was a low blow. Well, fuck you then. You just can't stop hurting me can you? It's like you get some sick pleasure out of destroying me. Well there is only so much I can take. I know you dont care about me, because you are fucking singing on twitter as I cry my heart out. Fuck you. I gave you all my heart and more. I love you far more than you fucking deserve. I am not gonna spend the rest of my life waiting for you to come back. I can't deal with this shit. I've left my parents a note telling them what happened, so don't bother phoning my house, you won't received a very friendly answer. People tend not to like those responsible for deaths in the family. I don't want you at my funeral. I don't want you to pass on music requests. I hope you fucking remember what you did to me for the rest of your fucking life.
Oh, and just so you know. I drank the pills and bleach, using 10 fucking cups. (reference to a tarot reading she had about our relationship~) Oh and are you curious how she knew what I was doing on my locked twitter account when I had blocked her ass? More on that soon.
She then proceeded to throw in anyone's face who tried to IM her and talk to her that no one knew her parent's address and so we couldnt call the police. I was upset but thank god I had multiple peole reminding me that none of this was my fault and that I did the right thing by breaking up with her and I wasnt responsible for her actions after I did so.
On Monday, Mindy's main AIM screen name suddenly came online. Alicia IMed her to see wtaf was going on. She claimed to be Mindy's sister Michaela and said that Mindy had Oded on a shit ton of morphine and bleach but that her dad found her and brought her to the hospital where she had her stomach pumped but still had a heart attack. But one thing that she said really set off bells in my head. "She did mention one other thing though at the hospital, when she was babbling. It's probably not important. But something about you and Liz emailing people? I think thats why she thought you didn't care any more." This was in reference to Liz and I reporting her ass to the HiH Mods for her sock account she had. (OH HAI ZEN_LANE33~) You might wonder how she knew? Well she had Liz's LJ password from a while back and it just so happened that it was the same as her gmail. Mindy actively tried to get into Liz's email and read through her inbox and sent emails and saw the email Liz sent and my email that I had forwarded to Liz. These were all sent after her supposed attempt and happened when she would have been getting her stomach pumped. I'm quite curious how one is able to hijack accounts while drifting in and out of consciousness at a hospital, aren't you?
So I have to trot off at this point to go to a therapists appt (WHICH I HAD NEVER BEEN HAPPIER TO GO TO, LET ME TELL YOU INTERNETS) and when I got out, I saw that I had an IM from her "sister" Ok. I am concerned. I do not want to tell my sister a lie. Do you care or not? Because I'M A FREE BITCH suggests not. Now I understand why she didn't want me to tell you. I am disappointed. BITCH IS NOW FUCKING QUOTING MY LOCKED TWITTER AT ME. So she is hacking into someone's twitter account to stalk me? CLASSY. Why would her sister do that? I met her for an hour. This is def Mindy. This whole suicide attempt was def bullshit. So I tweeted people warning them to change their passwords if there was a chance that she knew them. I then said the following: HI MINDY. HOW ARE YOU? CAN YOU SEE THIS? WHOSE ACCOUNT ARE YOU HACKING INTO TO READ MY TWEETS? [wherein I warn people to change passwords and that I suspect shit is fake]FUCK YOU MINDY THIS IS WHY I DUMPED YOU. EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION IS FUCKING NOT COOL. OH AND SINCE YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT "IM A FREE BITCH" IM HAPPY TO BE OUT OF AN UNHEALTHY, EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATIVE RELATIONSHIP. THIS DOESN'T MEAN I WISH YOU DEAD. I got a DM 2 hours later from gryffloins (aka the Gryff Reminder Twitter thing) gryffloins: Mindy left her twitter account open. I haven't hacked into anyone's account. I should never have bothered calling you. OIC. RIIIITE. I immediately IMed rhye who normally updates loins to warn her that Mindy was stalking me through it and that she should change the password.
Then I got a voicemail this morning from Mindy where she admitted that she faked the suicide attempt and that I was right to dump her and that our relationship was flawed and she never sought psych help even when she told me she did. She said that she is never coming back on twitter/LJ/AIM and that she's changing her cell # and won't bother me again. You know what? I'll fucking believe this when I see it. It sure as hell isn't going to stop me from doing the protective spells that Jess and I had planned and it won't stop me from freezing her ass. If she actually seeks help...good for her. But I don't give a shit anymore. I'm done. AND I'M FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. \O/
TL;DR MY EX IS A CRAZY BITCH AND THAT WAS AN INTERESTING~ BREAK UP.