reflections on my BRAINS AND INSIDES (heart maybe D:)

[gubaba]

it's 4 am and I'm semi asleep semi awake. In lieu (i dont even know if I'm spelling that word right lols) of seeing everything so far.. I've been pondering on the enigma that I still dont think I have comprehended correctly.. and that is relationships

Comments

[merlekitty]

Even though I'm in a relationship, I'm in the same area. I've always been confused how many people take the whole relationship idea and make it into "you complete me! Without you, I am nothing!" point of view. For me, it has always been that a relationship should be two whole individuals that come together to make something greater than the sum of the parts. If my girlfriend and I broke up right now, she would be OK on her own and I should be OK on my own. We don't HAVE to be together, we just chose to be together because together, we're much more than just the two of us individually.

So for us, 1+1=3. I guess for some people .2 + .3 = 1, which is still mathematically viable, but IMO, kinda sad. I know a few people who, after breaking up with their signifcant others either almost immediately find a replacement, already had a replacement lined up, or find someone else and get married.

I dunno, I understand why other people do it, but it makes me angry. =/

[gubaba]

Yeah. I know what you mean. The whole going through people like a box of tissues never set well with me (I don't mean people who've had time to move on, I mean people who just.. jump the gun and have 'back ups' and that stuff like you mentioned).

...of course I do realize that isn't how everyones relationship is either.

I am geniunely happy for my friends who have someone they are happy with. :D

[violentcatharsi]

I believe the people who look for relationships in the method you described are the ones who find something that isn't healthy and destined not to work, because it is out of neediness and frankly greed.

People who accuse you of being strange... if I were you I would hand them a copy of The Tao Te Ching and tell them to read it. Going through life without much ado; pay no heed to the 'neccessity' of relationships. I meet who I meet, I have fun with who I have fun with. I make out with who I make out with, and I end up in a relationship with someone when it works.

Too much thinking about it pollutes it.

[gubaba]

...Yeah, you're right. I agree with thinking on it too much can make someone go crazy. XD ..which is why I rarely type stuff like this. But I felt like I had to in regards to something one of my friends did. It made me think, hence the massive brainfart. I didn't mean to offend anyone either so I hope I didn't.

..I also think I typed a lot of things hastilly because it was 4 am. I agree with what you said there, when you end up in a relationship with someone and it works, it's good. ..but I'd want it to be something to geniunely last... not to have plans of leaving them for someone else who has a hotter face or bigger bazookas. WILL it geniunely last? No idea. ..but it doesn't mean I'd not want to try.

Also I miss the whacky talks on AIM with the fruitfull convos and the whacky pictures! I will totally stalkx0r j00.

[gmontem]

Oh hai wow you finally updated. K' says hai to you, too :P

I don't like to buy clothes unless they're on sale so... dating is like window shopping except the guys/girls are not offered at sale prices, even on Black Friday. XD

[gubaba]

YEAH THANKS FOR TAUNTING ME SOME MORE WITH THAT REALLY HOT PIC OF K'.

BARF.

..and same thing with me rofl, I LIKE TO BUY THINGS ON SALE.. unless it's really really hot and cool. Then I will buy it 4 reels.

[karisma_black]

Good entry. And good questions. Honestly, I don't like to waste my time either. It sort of bothers me and I hate to sit around idle. However, when it comes to relationships, I don't jump at the chance unless I see a future. As in this could be my potential mate for life. Sometimes you can't tell right away and you can't really be certain without doing dating-ish things, seeing them on a one-on-one level because some people don't open up the same without it. I'm in a good relationship and I don't see ending anytime soon.

[gubaba]

Yessss...

I agree too. Totally.

btw your relationship with Erick is probably one of my faves. You both are so adorable and both of you are my really good friends. I HOPE YOU GUYS DO STAY THERE FOR A BILLION YEARS!

Maybe one day I'll figure out this enigma. Till then I won't stress about it. XD

[karisma_black]

Awwww. I'm glad you think so. :)

[momiji]

I think people are more afraid of not having a good relationship they sometimes destroy onces they have by getting nuts.

Its supposed to be fun to date and meet people. If you meet some one who makes you want to spend the time with them, and kiss them, great... if not.. so what? Keep having fun.

You can't live your life for another person, but its nice to share it. As far as people splitting? Shit happens. It hurts, yeah.. but that doesn't diminsih the good times you had with them.

And on a side note... maybe its me.. but I was greatly amused by your comment wasting time for a RPGer :D

lol

[gubaba]

Yeah.. this is why I'm happy for couples who have a tight bond and have fun with each other. Good times are the ones that stick.

..and I'm glad you liked it rofl.. I don't think I can keep up a serious face without saying something silly after.