Been a while...

[gwenneth]

I haven't updated this in a long time, but I felt it was time as so much has changed for us. It is now May and the babies are coming at the end of the month (if I can hold them in that long.) I went from worrying about length of the cervix to finding out the babies are "momos" or monoamniotic. They share a placenta and an amniotic sac and have NO

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[frenchpony]

Can you just kind of . . . "forget" to mention to the MIL when you go to the hospital? You know, in all the excitement of getting there and doing the surgery and stuff, it completely slipped your mind to call her?

[gwenneth]

I've been thinking of that, but if we have a planned day and time...and get to it...that wouldn't work. I'm just going to have to be emphatic. My body, my delivery and I'll let you know when you can come. I just hope she LISTENS. Because if not, I'm not liable to forgive it quickly.

[frenchpony]

You might want to enlist the hospital's help in this, too. Give the nurses a written list of who is to be allowed in the delivery room with you, and maybe they can help you keep MIL out.

[meggins]

Yes, I was going to suggest the same thing. If it's stressful/uncomfortable for you, that's actually a medical reason, with all that's going on, and the staff should be looking out for you--and the babies, of course.

A former co-worker of mine married into a large Italian family, and they all showed up after she had her son. (At least they did wait until after the delivery.) She was exhausted by it, and hers was a completely normal and healthy delivery. So, yes, by all means, set boundaries.