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[gwoka]

So what am I meant to be? No, please, tell me. Should I be a non-conformist, like you? Should I snub my nose at every girl with even a smattering of makeup? At every girl wearing a belt as a fashion statement? At every girl wearing a skirt that doesn't touch her knees? Should I slag off the boys they hang with, how they're all jerks who just

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[innocent_grace]

You should be...you.

What deeper desire? And that's where I am weak. I KNOW that I will not be fulfilled...especially when SO MANY people have taken the same road. But I will never KNOW truly, no matter how many people tell me, until I've seen it for myself. Doesn't mean I've WALKED it, and done things I'll regret; just seen other people walking it firsthand and known that it's not for me. Otherwise, regrettably, curiousity will consume me.

[enigmatic_ellen]

So go be you, Hayley. Go be you.

[devilapes]

I think that to a certain degree, we are all a part of everything that you said. Every single day we get faced with decisions that can affect us in bigger ways than we think.

We change throughout our whole lives, depending on our surroundings, who we hang out with, who we care about.. I think that we have to pick what is best for us at a certain moment. Not what everybody else expects you to be, but what YOU want to be. After all, its your life, you should be the one who decides what you want to do with it and who yo uwant to be, not anybody else's decision. Right?

[enigmatic_ellen]

Unless you believe in God. In which case, you should be aiming for what he wants (which in part is peace for you and eternity in heaven). Not trying to complicate things further, though.

Too late!

PS. What if you don't know what you want? How then do you make your decisions?

[devilapes]

It's a part of learning what life is about, and it's also a part of defining your life purpose.

You make your decisions one baby step at a time, based on what you think is right.

[webmaster90]

And far out to you, too.

Gwok, whoever you're talking to (and I really hope that wasn't for me), just...stop. Stop handling life in such a complicated way. Find yourself and don't let yourself go. Always have a strong grip on your own person and be the best you can be. Don't not conform just to have not conformed. But don't conform just to be accepted. I know someone who does a lot of conforming.

Sorry if that was really annoying, but I got the impression that you are actually a mature, down-to-earth person and that you are being sucked slowly and subtly into the shallowness. And I don't want that to happen, because I don't want you to slip away. And I know I am probably miles off.

[celebwen2030]

Does the walker choose the path, or the path the walker?

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I have so many things I could talk to you about, but I think it would all come down to something like this:

If something needs changing, go change it. Or just try a few different things for a while.
Don't look always look at the big picture, because sometimes it's overwhelming. Act on the little things. Answer one question at a time. Don't be scared.

Oh, and just for the record; 'conformist' is a bit of an oximoron. None of use can help conforming to what we are. For example, am I conforming if I continue to be a girl for the rest of my life? But if I don't conform to that, am I conforming to the rest of the people who aren't conforming? And if I conform to neither, then do I exist at all? :P

Go live life, dear Gwok. No one is gonna hate you for it. :)

((And if they do, send them to me. I'll fire penguins at them or something. *gets her penguin gun ready* ))