erin

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

dude and erin broke up last week. i've been very angry and upset... i just feel so useless. i want so badly to be able to do something to help somehow, but there's nothing i can do. what makes it harder is that i keep finding everything out WAY after everybody else. i found out they broke up because erin changed her facebook status to "single",

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[eilonwyg]

Oh man. *hug* That's just terrible! Makes me worried about Karter, if she's abusing. I really hope everything works out okay. I'll be thinking of you guys. *crosses fingers*

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

yeah :( she's staying with her cousin i guess instead of her mom, which is just bad news >.<

[miffimifster]

Ugh! And it's that much harder now, with little Karter in the mix!

I feel so horribly sorry for Little Dude Jr. :( What a loser mom to be stuck with!

Make sure that your brother notes absolutely EVERYTHING that she does that shows her as incompetent! Every time she does something stupid/unreasonable, write date/time and details. He may have to fight for his son in court!

Utterly, utterly stupid situation...

My sympathies. *hugs*

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

mhm :<

yeah... they've agreed on 50/50 custody since he's gone half the time (he has the same sort of work situation as cori) but she keeps trying to get money out of him, when he doesn't have to give her anything right now. the court will make him pay 20% of his earnings, minus a bit since he's on dude's insurance, and that will end up being about $450... she's trying to insist that he pays her $600/mo, and wants the money right now, and is convinced he'll have to pay "back child support" if he doesn't give her any money yet. apparently she has no clue what's supposed to be going on... either she has a really shitty lawyer or hasn't actually gotten one yet.

[miffimifster]

*facepalm*

Well... Paying her support right now is up to your brother, I suppose. He could avoid "back-pay" (if the court decides in her favour for that) by paying some amount, but getting her to sign receipts for every payment. That way, the judge would see that he provided support to Karter.

How are your folks taking it?

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

nah there's no such thing as back-paying child support lol cuz there's no actual child support until the court assigns it. right now he's just gonna give her diapers and such that she'll need during the time she has karter, and call it good. if he gave her extra money who's to say it's not going towards pills, and it's not his job to pay for EVERYTHING karter needs.

they're pretty upset :/ mom's being surprisingly civil... she's afraid we won't get to see karter ever again.

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

yeah :/ they've broken up 2 or 3 times before for this same reason, and the last time they got back together is when she got pregnant (i was so afraid the kid wasn't his lol). my mom said he's got a good lawyer, but i'm not sure which one he's seeing. i told him that worse case scenario, he should go for full custody and have me as karter's caretaker when he's on the slope.

[thakyuki]

D':
I hope your brother can get custody of Karter since she's abusing drugs.

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

they've agreed on 50/50 custody (since he's gone half the time for work), but we'll see if she'll stick with it once they're in court cuz she keeps trying to pull shit.

[thakyuki]

I'm hoping whatever the outcome that it works well for Karter.

[h_u_s_h_e_d]

*nod* :(

O__O

[bronzephoenix17]

I am so very sorry. Something similar happened to a friend's brother, where they married and separated within a year because she was cheating on him with any dude on the military base who did not know her husband D: But they didn't have a kid. Throwing your nephew in the mix makes it so, so much more heartbreaking.

I really hope that things work out so that Karter is in the best situation possible. It sounds like his mother may not be the best person to be raised by. I do agree that you would probably benefit from records of her unstable behavior (everything from cheating to drug abuse to trying to convince authorities that your family would kidnap Karter, which is really just a shitty thing to do, to put it lightly) and of any support your brother offers. It could help your brother's case.

The couple I talked about earlier? The girl is trying to pull weird ass crap like that, too. People are so... Ugh. Well, I am hoping for the best for your family, please let me know if I can do anything.