Comments | hairlessgerbil: So I just

hairlessgerbil

So I just

Apr 27, 2009 16:21

sent my sister an email that pretty much said I wasn't interested in any contact with her unless her life changes dramatically ( Read more... )

Comments 15

ceciliacarnage April 27 2009, 23:32:00 UTC

Well you have to do what feels right and to me is sounds as if you did. You have enough going on without dealing with other people's issues.

hairlessgerbil April 28 2009, 02:09:40 UTC

I can't handle a bipolar abusive drug addict. That would really fuck up a day :)

ceciliacarnage April 28 2009, 06:11:38 UTC

Damn skippy. The whole bipolar thing might not be QUITE as bad without the whole drug addict thing. =)

hairlessgerbil April 28 2009, 13:28:12 UTC

You know I can do the bipolar thing standing on my head. I know numerous bipolar people who still raise their children, keep food in the house, bathe them and don't break their arms. It is doable. She uses it as a crutch and an excuse for her own bad behavior. I won't even accept that the drug addict thing is part of how she treated her poor kids. I don't want to know someone who has it in them to break their own child's arm in two places, you know? That's a dangerous person indeed.

lostraven April 27 2009, 23:54:38 UTC

I can only expect to have to do something similar sooner than later
with my brother. Kudos for doing it; I still have some guts to work
up I think.

-Shawn

hairlessgerbil April 28 2009, 02:08:47 UTC

Well it got ugly, but I decided just to delete the email and move on on the last round. I think she got my mother's reaction to the truth :)

missmoonie April 28 2009, 01:01:05 UTC

You're making all the best decisions. You're one smart chica!

hairlessgerbil April 28 2009, 02:09:09 UTC

You adopting any new family? I seem to be running out? :D

missmoonie April 28 2009, 11:42:49 UTC

You got me babe! (do do do do do do do do)

I always have room for more family.

hairlessgerbil April 28 2009, 13:28:31 UTC

YAY! I can change my own diapers too!

pallida April 28 2009, 03:43:25 UTC

Am I allowed to suggest a minor correction of "blood family?" You have family, just not genetically related to you. (Yeah yeah, I know you know that already, just a gentle reminder.)

hairlessgerbil April 28 2009, 13:29:10 UTC

You are allowed to suggest that :D I've nearly always considered my friends more of a family than I ever have the blood part.

autifon April 29 2009, 16:40:57 UTC

Took me a very long time to realize that sometimes, family or not, you just have to close some doors to protect yourself. When you realize you are worrying about the world & no one is worrying about you, it is a bit of a wakeup call.

Here's to drama-free living! (or at least as drama-free as possible)

hairlessgerbil April 29 2009, 19:51:34 UTC

I rather like that line, when you realize you are worrying about the world and no one is worrying about you. Intriguing.

autifon April 29 2009, 20:00:35 UTC

As a corollary, I used to really battle hard at work for the desktop support guys, as I felt like they were getting shafted. I learned a couple of things:

1) Your value to the company is directly proportional to how easily replaceable you are.

2) I was willing to work harder for them than they were, which is probably part of the reason I was where I was & there were where they were, so I finally said to hell w/ it!

Remember to use the airplane rule: in an emergency, you put the mask on YOURSELF FIRST - you won't be around to help others if you don't take care of yourself first.

I've got to admit, tho, it is a lot easier to say than do. Taking care of others comes naturally for me - just as naturally as self-sacrifice/neglect. Pretty sure I learned that from my mom..