Standards
Hola.
I just posted a very lengthy- for my eyes only- blog entry, so I feel like I need to put something out there in the world. Since this is a fresh topic around me right now, and I'm fairly heated about it, I'm gonna blog about it. But, in an indirect manner.
I think I have posted before about my "10 Holy Standards" for a husband? If not, I'll post that later. I prayed ad nauseum about them and have basically come up with 10 (a few are somewhat negotiable, but I can only imagine I would be able to ditch them when/if God gave me my match and I had to sacrifice something of myself to be with him) things I will not budge on when considering marriage. They aren't dumb things like "must have good fashion sense or great arms"- they are things are essential to my well being, learned both from self-awareness and from past experiences of what is healthy for me and what is not.
Anyhoo, I'm not talking about those today. Today's list is...
I will not date you if:
If you are married, I will not date you.
If you are in a relationship, I will not date you. (Nor will I make out with, hold hands with, or even have long talks about how it would be if it were "us" with you.)
If you have knowingly assisted in someone else cheating on their partner, I will not date you. And don't think you are innocent.
If you are fed emotionally by female "good friends", I will not date you.
If you are living with your ex, best gal friend, or "my best friend's ex girlfriend- it's complicated but I promise there's nothing going on", I will not date you.
If you are clean off of a relationship but are trying to "make the friendship work", I will not date you. Not saying this is a bad thing to do, because it's very noble. It's still baggage.
If you are notorious for dating and dumping, guess what, I'm not gonna date you either.
If you expect me to make the first move, no matter how much I might like you, I will not date you.
These, you would think, would be obvious. However, they are all amazingly confounding to some of the men in my life who have attempted to date me. Also confounding to men I have known who don't understand why any of these would be a turn-off to a woman.
I could explain myself, but I'm not going to. If you disagree, I would love to hear your side of any one of these!
Cheers!
I just posted a very lengthy- for my eyes only- blog entry, so I feel like I need to put something out there in the world. Since this is a fresh topic around me right now, and I'm fairly heated about it, I'm gonna blog about it. But, in an indirect manner.
I think I have posted before about my "10 Holy Standards" for a husband? If not, I'll post that later. I prayed ad nauseum about them and have basically come up with 10 (a few are somewhat negotiable, but I can only imagine I would be able to ditch them when/if God gave me my match and I had to sacrifice something of myself to be with him) things I will not budge on when considering marriage. They aren't dumb things like "must have good fashion sense or great arms"- they are things are essential to my well being, learned both from self-awareness and from past experiences of what is healthy for me and what is not.
Anyhoo, I'm not talking about those today. Today's list is...
I will not date you if:
If you are married, I will not date you.
If you are in a relationship, I will not date you. (Nor will I make out with, hold hands with, or even have long talks about how it would be if it were "us" with you.)
If you have knowingly assisted in someone else cheating on their partner, I will not date you. And don't think you are innocent.
If you are fed emotionally by female "good friends", I will not date you.
If you are living with your ex, best gal friend, or "my best friend's ex girlfriend- it's complicated but I promise there's nothing going on", I will not date you.
If you are clean off of a relationship but are trying to "make the friendship work", I will not date you. Not saying this is a bad thing to do, because it's very noble. It's still baggage.
If you are notorious for dating and dumping, guess what, I'm not gonna date you either.
If you expect me to make the first move, no matter how much I might like you, I will not date you.
These, you would think, would be obvious. However, they are all amazingly confounding to some of the men in my life who have attempted to date me. Also confounding to men I have known who don't understand why any of these would be a turn-off to a woman.
I could explain myself, but I'm not going to. If you disagree, I would love to hear your side of any one of these!
Cheers!