the way i see it, just ask her. if she is not interested because she is straight it is no different than if she just wasn't interested. if a person isn't interested in someone else, it's cos they aren't attracted to them. this happens even when the two people are of compatible sexual orientations. so until you know for certain she is straight, go for it. you can't tell by appearances if a girl is gay. i've met plenty of super femme dykes and plenty of butch straights. people are just people, not stereotypes.
sorry your friend was hurt, but it was better to let him down easy now than drag it out.
glad to hear you are moving on from Heather. it's best not to let hurtful, toxic people back into our lives.
definitely. it helps when you leave the situation being in control of how it ends. this time around you were able to chose to end it rather than having her ditch you. i'm glad to hear you got the closure you needed.
Don't let a guy try to talk you into being someone you're not. You're a beautiful girl with a good head on your shoulders and should be proud of yourself for being able to come to terms with your sexuality.
Alot of people I know have problems dealing with their parents or other friends trying to get them "back to normal". You have to ask yourself if THEY are living YOUR life, or if YOU are. My ex is living under her mom' thumb right now, and I'd rather have a relationship with the daughter, not the mother, thank you.
Asian girls are cute ^.^ go for it! Don't let her looks fool you; I wear more make up than straight girls and only wear pink fluffy lacy clothes. Some girls are femme. Some aren't. Good luck
I'm glad you had the strength to tell your friend straight up. It's always the best way to go.
And yay for Asian girls, lawls. If it was me I'd just keep talking to her more to the point that you guys are pretty good friends or at least call each other by name. Maybe say you guys should hang outside of the shop.
Sometimes I'm not comfortable just telling random people that I'm gay haha. But I dunno. My gaydar's pretty good.
but I don't want to be that chick who chases straight chicks, you know? I think that's kind of a pity, and a part of the legacy of discrimination and the like. Because I don't want to see it as 'chasing straight girls' - don't we have the right to try and see whether there could be a chance with someone, without first worrying ourselves to death whether they swing our way or not? I mean, if a guy's interested in a girl, he goes for it, and the girl might reciprocate or then not. But there's no harm in trying. Why shouldn't we have the same right?
Sorry, just stumbled here by accident, didn't mean to rant... It's just that that mindset is something I myself have been struggling with, and have tried to teach myself out of. :/
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sorry your friend was hurt, but it was better to let him down easy now than drag it out.
glad to hear you are moving on from Heather. it's best not to let hurtful, toxic people back into our lives.
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Alot of people I know have problems dealing with their parents or other friends trying to get them "back to normal". You have to ask yourself if THEY are living YOUR life, or if YOU are. My ex is living under her mom' thumb right now, and I'd rather have a relationship with the daughter, not the mother, thank you.
Asian girls are cute ^.^ go for it! Don't let her looks fool you; I wear more make up than straight girls and only wear pink fluffy lacy clothes. Some girls are femme. Some aren't. Good luck
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And yay for Asian girls, lawls.
If it was me I'd just keep talking to her more to the point that you guys are pretty good friends or at least call each other by name. Maybe say you guys should hang outside of the shop.
Sometimes I'm not comfortable just telling random people that I'm gay haha. But I dunno. My gaydar's pretty good.
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I think that's kind of a pity, and a part of the legacy of discrimination and the like. Because I don't want to see it as 'chasing straight girls' - don't we have the right to try and see whether there could be a chance with someone, without first worrying ourselves to death whether they swing our way or not? I mean, if a guy's interested in a girl, he goes for it, and the girl might reciprocate or then not. But there's no harm in trying. Why shouldn't we have the same right?
Sorry, just stumbled here by accident, didn't mean to rant... It's just that that mindset is something I myself have been struggling with, and have tried to teach myself out of. :/
Cheers~
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