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Musings on the Male/Female Dichotomy

Jan 14, 2011 11:06

Disclaimer: The following blog is full of generalizations and obviously doesn't apply to everyone. What I'm about to describe is based on my general observations of male vs. female behavior. It's not about you. :)

This morning I engaged in a political debate with a girlfriend of mine. It was one of those "hot topic" issues that people tend to feel ( Read more... )

gender, maternity, logan, motherhood

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temperlj January 14 2011, 16:11:57 UTC

I had a friend with similar concerns and although she worries that Flora often tosses aside the unisex stuff for the pink tutu and tiara, she's a great, nurturing Mom and I'm sure that Flora won't be raised with strange biases about math or what is 'boy stuff.'
Sure the same is true with you.

harpiegirl4 January 14 2011, 16:16:02 UTC

Thanks hon. I guess the thing I'm contemplating is that I've always thought about how I want to bring up a child. A child. Not a boy, not a girl. Now that I know the sex of the Bun, there's this whole new element that has my head spinning! I mean, I'd probably pick that same Pooh themed set if the Bun was a girl! I guess all any mom can do is the best she can. :)

marinshellstone January 14 2011, 20:35:09 UTC

I love his name. I love his little existence before he's even come out. And I love his mama.

"Raising Children Compassionately" by Marshall B. Rosenberg...a few of my parental friends have said this book is amazing

tomincloset January 14 2011, 20:56:15 UTC

To paraphrase Dave Barry - the difference between little girls and little boys is, little girls are smaller versions of actual human beings, while little boys are Pod People from the planet Destructo. If you left a bunch of little girls on a desert island, they would eventually use driftwood to build shelters and form a society. If you do the same thing with a bunch of little boys, they would pretend that the pieces of driftwood were guns.

Dave was being funny. But his point (and yours) are well taken...I think Dave's applies to a lot of adults too, come to think of it. ;)

this is long i hope it makes sense. artstorm January 15 2011, 03:40:21 UTC

i'm going through the same difficulty with conversations. with other males it's civil with females it degenerates into both parties feeling disrespected and upset. from talking with these people after the fact and trying to understand why this has happened it seems to me that each gender or maybe just people that grow up certain ways interpret things in a conversation/debate in drastically different ways that end up causing each side to assert themselves in a more intense way. in the conversations i've had problems in the women have told me that it felt like i was trying to win and didn't want to listen to them. for me it felt like they were just trying to put my ideas down and not even attempt to understand where i was coming from. its made me see that yes i do get worse throughout the conversation without even realizing it i refuse to concede points until my point has been conceded too. but the women get worse too and the behaviour which initally made me feel uncomfortable gets worse and things go further on both sides which they ( ... )