You can sometimes walk away from a friend, Dave. You can't walk away from a spouse...mainly cuz you don't ever want to. Just my two cents, if you ask me what the difference is.
The only difference between a girlfriend/boyfriend and a spouse is time. If you can't imagine yourself marrying said girl/boyfriend, back away. Quickly. As in really fast.
i don't think that's the only difference. that's like saying the only difference between aquaintances and best friends is time. it's in the time spent together that we figure out if we want to be more than aquaintances, or more than average friends. frankly i can see myself marrying tons of women i know, because i don't understand it all well enough- and that's part of the learning that i'm doing with marie. we connect well, enjoy being part of each other's lives, and now dating is how i/we figure out if i/we are willing to step away from ourselves for one another.
Relationships to you are different to me, but I'll give you my idea on them.
Basically, in just a few words, relationships are voids until I find that "right girl" but that girl in my opinion isn't just one, it's plenty - whomever I'm compatible with. I'm not saying I'm with more than one girl at a time, I'm saying that plenty girls could be that everlasting kindness waiting for me when I get home. This girl will be incredibly so imperfect that it makes for an adventure - not a challenge, everyday.
It won't be overnight, but it won't be fate either. Believing in Santa makes him real for just a short time, but never forever. Fate is like that, organizing random events into meaningful and clever ways that one has established to make sense. But that's not true, well, at least not for me.
Ok, I'll give it a shot. (This part is more of a response to Derek's ramblings) In this book that I've read called "The Five Love Languages" (which we talked about at Curt's house the night before my wedding) it says that on average, people go through a two year "love" phase. This means that you will do anything for this person because you think that they are the right one, and all this other stuff. However, once these two years (or sometimes shorter or longer) are up, then you are able to see the persons faults. It is usually drastically shorter then 2 years if the person is not compatible at all. Then once you find out their faults, you have to make the decision as to whether you can live with them for the rest of your life. In other words, you have to decide whether you want to love them or not
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i think.
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Basically, in just a few words, relationships are voids until I find that "right girl" but that girl in my opinion isn't just one, it's plenty - whomever I'm compatible with. I'm not saying I'm with more than one girl at a time, I'm saying that plenty girls could be that everlasting kindness waiting for me when I get home. This girl will be incredibly so imperfect that it makes for an adventure - not a challenge, everyday.
It won't be overnight, but it won't be fate either. Believing in Santa makes him real for just a short time, but never forever. Fate is like that, organizing random events into meaningful and clever ways that one has established to make sense. But that's not true, well, at least not for me.
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and indeed, it does.
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oh and with all the rain, you prolly had to stay indoors, what a shame.
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