Seriously? I need to fucking vent for a minute.

[havenward]

Dear David's mother:

... What the actual fuck? Did you seriously ask David if he has any friends that could miss the wedding ceremony? Because you want to invite all your friends? Seriously?

I'm sorry, I know that someone is going to have to miss the ceremony in order to let deliveries etc. into the reception venue. But the number of our friends

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[elebridith]

Oh fucking fuck. *huggles* I'm forwarding some mails to you.

[teithiwr]

Sheesh, surely it should be your and David's business who gets invited to the wedding?

Ugh. *hugs*

[havenward]

Yes, exactly. And it's not that we mind her friends being invited, of course. But in the scale of things, whose friends should be the ones that are present for the ceremony? All of my friends are flying in... should they fly in just to miss the ceremony? Half of David's friends are flying in, too.

But maybe 4 of his mother's/parents' friends have actually met me. Most of them haven't seen David in years. So... which of these groups of people should be the ones present? I mean, seriously.

The question was just astoundingly selfish. I can't even.

[teithiwr]

Oh wow, that is utterly ridic.

[darling_lisa]

Oh honey *huggles*

I honestly just don't have the words for D's mother... like seriously? SERIOUSLY? UGH.

Just keep breathing and remind yourself that it will be a special day no matter what crap they pull between now and then and nothing they can do will change that.

*smishes*

[havenward]

I miss your face and god I wish you guys were here cos damn I could use a drink with my girls right now. Argh.

♥

[fyrie]

Never expect mothers to be rational when it comes to the day when they get to show off the fact their spawn is successfully bonding with someone else's spawn. Especially if said spawn gets to look all handsome and successful and stuff. There were more of my mother's friends at my brother's wedding than his friends, which was just kind of embarrassing.

[havenward]

Yup. Our friends and my side of the family make up of... Hm, maybe 60 people, if everybody who's invited comes? And right now we're thinking the total will be between 160 and 170 in attendance.

I won't even have ever met most of those people. Most of those people won't be there for us, they'll be there because The Son of Larry Moyer Whom We Invested In Is Getting Married.

My favorite part of the evening by far is the part where I was told that since I don't have a job right now, why aren't I doing the small handful of things that she took upon herself and informed us she would take care of. Or how I shouldn't feel hurt that she missed the deadline that she set for herself for giving us her list of invitees, despite the fact that we've been asking for this since October.

:sighs: It doesn't help that I could do without a uterus right now. But I don't particularly feel loved. (Well, not by her, anyway.)

[fyrie]

You wouldn't believe the hard time my sister had from our mother :( Histrionics over everything she said, mum taking offence at everything. Nutso. I think the best you can do is put your foot down and then do what you choose, to hell with hissy-fits. Mothers and the power of the guilt-trip is cruel thing :(

[havenward]

So true, so true. I'll be glad when this is done, for damn sure.

I think if anyone ever asks me for advice, hands down it's going to be "elope"...