women+low self esteem=worry

[he_man_is_cool]

had a strange week so far.had an official date on saturday with tia (although we've met up a few times now).took her to the zoo.was a really good day.like properly amazing. we get on really,really well.we had ham rolls and peppermint tea for lunch then went back to hers and made soup.then we watched eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.which is

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[lozzamozza]

"then went back to hers and made soup" Is that what you call it?
Just arrange the next date and take it from there. Not that I know much about these things.

[he_man_is_cool]

it was pretty sexy soup i have to say ;) i never realised soup was so much fun before.

[tarrophsim]

It sounds like it was a really nice weekend man, and that things are going great! I know exactly what you mean/where you're at though bro as I always used to be my own worst enemy whenever I got into a new relationship - I would overthink thinks to the point of destruction, and then determine a million fantastic reasons why I should be single again, despite really liking who I was dating. I know this isn't exactly the same, but it's only after I kept telling that 'voice' of pressure in my head to fuck off and stuck with it that I got past it (and here I am 3 years later with Charlene

[he_man_is_cool]

aw,thanks mate.i really appreciate that :)

[wordmongerer]

I think the best thing is not to get too swept up in what everything means for right now. It sounds like you've had a bit of a tough relationship past and you should just try and enjoy yourself for now, don't try and pile too much pressure on the situation. It's easy to feel that way when the other person is taking things calmly. Try and enjoy the moments and just see what happens, at least that way if it works out it'll be because you're ready for it. The worst thing you can do is get into a relationship before you're ready and when your thoughts are jumbled

[he_man_is_cool]

thanks mate.i didn't realise i had such wise and caring friends :) i've had a rough few days of worrying,but i think i am starting to calm down a bit now.yeah,if she's the right girl things'll work out,if not then there'll be someone else.i havn't had much experience with girls and yeah,they were generally more bad than good.so,i'm trying to remember that it should be fun getting to know someone,not terrifying.

i know it's a cliche but: BLOODY WOMEN!! ;) haha! i know i'll never understand them.

[wordmongerer]

My experiences are predominantly bad until very recently, It's taken me until now but I had to have a lot of hurt first and make a lot of mistakes, but when you're ready and right you'll make decisions for the right reasons they'll be the right decisions as a result. The best thing you can do is understand yourself, you'll never be able to figure out women! But if you know you well enough you'll see what's great about you and what you need to change and you'll worry less. The rest takes care of itself. Take it easy and take it steady buddy!

[he_man_is_cool]

thanks guys :) i needed that boost.i didn't realise how low my confidence was 'til i met this girl.