Comments | heatherdawn1980: big decision

heatherdawn1980

big decision

Oct 27, 2010 00:53

Tonight out of the blue when talking with Andy about money, upcoming expenditures, and things we want to save for, he mentioned he wanted to talk to me about something hes been thinking about but it would cost 7to10k. At first I thought he wanted a new Harley or another used truck,but i didnt ask that. instead i simply asked what he had in mind ( Read more... )

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designingdreams October 27 2010, 05:46:45 UTC

no specific advice, just wanted to say, cool! How exciting!

worldcrzgirl October 27 2010, 11:30:45 UTC

Especially cool that this is HIS idea. I'm just glad this door is being opened for you, for consideration. You don't have to make any quick decisions, but it's nice to know it's once again an option. Well done Andy!

heatherdawn1980 October 28 2010, 03:10:13 UTC

Yeah, he completely blindsided me by bringing it up!

cortneeinc October 27 2010, 13:01:48 UTC

Oh gosh. I don't know about all that. i thought you didn't want kids?

heatherdawn1980 October 28 2010, 03:06:12 UTC

Well, I've always been kind of iffy about kids, and once I got with Andy and basically knew that wasn't an option, I got in the mindset of not wanting kids. Now it looks like I may be reconsidering!

where_no1knows October 27 2010, 16:43:35 UTC

I also thought you didn't want kids? Hm. That is a lot to think about. Good luck !

heatherdawn1980 October 28 2010, 03:06:28 UTC

Well, I've always been kind of iffy about kids, and once I got with Andy and basically knew that wasn't an option, I got in the mindset of not wanting kids. Now it looks like I may be reconsidering!

zvezda October 27 2010, 17:30:55 UTC

I would spend a lot of time and energy thinking about the commitment of having a baby would mean. If you don't absolutely want it, don't do it. You will have beautiful stepchildren, and you always seemed to be ok with the idea of not having children of your own. Not having the option was hard, I remember, but that seemed to be mostly about not having the choice, not the crushing blow of realizing that you will never have a child of your own.

Also, 7-10k is a lot of money, coupled with how much a child costs.

All important parts to consider, but only you can really know. Good luck!

heatherdawn1980 October 28 2010, 03:07:51 UTC

It's definitely a lot to consider..and I'm a thinker so EVERY little thing is making me question things. For example, we'd have to trade in my car towards a SUV, because neither one of our vehicles can seat 6 people!