feeling somewhat morose

[hedya]

It might be because of the misty weather, which always puts me in a melancholic, introspective state, or just because having had the lurgies dragging on for FAAAR too long has put a damper on it all, but I have to say that I'm feeling rather..... a sad person

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[lostdreamer666]

*HUG*

[jorune]

"It feels that even there sight of what really matters, the people, the relationship, the care, is being lost in the business of a task/target/production orientated culture"

I agree, inside a supposedly caring company there is a Janus reaction, we care, please pay attention to diversity but the feeling is that 'on time on budget' is most important.

I believe that Faith and the salvation of our dear Saviour is the bedrock of a healthy life. But I also believe that some parts of Psychoanalysis and modern thinking on mental health i.e. the books of Tony Robbins, can provide highly specific benefits that can only be gleaned from Religion after long periods of study.

'I now find myself not having the time for any of this, or having to avoid a number of things because they are "unsafe"'

Can you describe why these things are 'unsafe'?

Things can improve and I'm sure they will for you.

[hedya]

tough questions that requires time adn attention to answer... (sic !) Give me a couple of hours and I shall try to be more specific

[hedya]

Ok, for the ardous task of defining "unsafe

[jorune]

Looking at web pages about Tony Robbins, they show the full spectrum of web content; Fawning praise, some reasoned comment and total loathing. For me, his work is about making Psychology accessible to the layman. It's a big subject and I find it quite daunting when looking at some of the books in Waterstones when they venture into the arenas of neurology, pharmacology and social context. A lot of it is of relevance to the mentally ill, those people with deep trauma as opposed to people like myself who want to do a bit of self analysis

[sebbo]

*hugs* well... work to live, live to work and other crappy things to say right now, though these seem more useful -> *hugs*

[hedya]

thanks for the hugs, much appreciated. Feeling less self pitying, but still acutely aware that this IS a problem. To the extent that when talking with my gorgeous mavnn about this yesterday I wasn't even sure anymore of what I would *want* to do or *be interested in* right now. Such lack of character is unbecoming, methinks. Any suggestions welcome

[hedya]

.... you forget that as a teacher I cannot take holidays when I want them but only when the government lets me. And even if it is 13 weeks in a year, well, those are not *really* holidays, becuase it becomes the frantic time when you try to catch up with the rest of your life, and when, again the practical stuff that has been piling up for the term months absolutely has to be sorted.

"Remind yourself of where you came from to be who you are."That's a whole new can of worms of itself. I have been feeling increasingly ill at ease with being here. You see, I keep, in general, hitting my head against the brick wall of British cultural arrogance. My roots are ill defined, I was born and lived in Italy for a long time, but in a mixed family with even more mixed origins (my mum is austrian, coming from a mixed german, austrian, polish and czeck descent - the wonders of the austro-hungarian empire :)). I do not fit the stereotipes, yet I'm not British in subtle but significant ways, hence your average brit cannot deal with me as a person

[purp1e_magic]

Not having time is a real problem. With a bit of time on your hands you can kick yourself out of the house, and see where you end up, or you could take yourself off to the theatre or whatever. I find that doing something you used to do gives you an idea of why you don't anymore, and suggestions for thngs you'd enjoy better.

One thought is to try to make time. I find that if I have some specific motivation to get things done, I work much faster. So all those niggling little jobs around the house take no time flat when you're off to the cinema at the end of it. (In Peter's case, making time means learning to sleep less, and these days he only sleeps 5 hours a night.)

Finally, one possibility is to incorporate activities into the things you normally do. For example, eating at a restaurant instead of cooking and eating at home, taking a scenic route to home from work or maybe doing your marking at a quiet cafe once in a while.

I hope it works itself out for you!

[hedya]

I too feel the culture shock (most notably the way that people are nice about everything and could never tell someone to 'piss-off' - something that would be both taken in good humor and respected where I'm from, but is very offensive here)

LOL! Seconded. I was having this conversation with mavnn after one evening I got jumped on again for having tried to express something I found difficult to put in words and slipped into Italian habits; you see, I failed to couch all that I said in a long list of caveats, IMHO's, softening circumstances, etc, etc, etc. Italians speak in absolutes to start with, both to have immediately a rough idea of what in the blazes you are talking about and to cut the crap of beating round the bush. Then, only then, through confrontation and discussion, at times quite animated (!) you refine your statements and add the softening detail. And by the way: this is also the reason why, at least with me, you don't need disclaimers like the one you put at the beginning of your post....

On the job-dominance front, I

[jorune]

Is Coventry 'very' middle england or is that it is soft of the Irony Curtain?

The notional border is Nottinghamshire and Derbyshire are in the Midlands and Yorkshire is in the North. There is a secondary cultural boundary called the Irony Curtain which runs across the country roughly north of Birmingham. So Notts, Derby and Leics use Northern idioms and would react more towards your Yorkshire based manner of thinking.