Late Introductions

[ursilentsingr]

I've been a member of this group for quite sometime. I've been abused and I joined this group in an attempt not only to help my friends that have been abused cope with it, but also to get more insight into how to help my now ex-boyfriend cope with me. There's not much to my story in the sense that I'd rather not elaborate at the moment as to my own

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[lb_lee]

Why not? On the first try, I'd be surprised if you pulled it off.

You can live, darlin, I promise you. There's just a difference between healing and just stuffing something down low enough it doesn't hurt much.

It's okay to be scared of it; hell, I've had a pretty normal life, and I'm still scared of it sometimes. But if you go through what bothers you, really go the lengths to understand it, and share it with whoever it is you're dating without fear, that's what real healing is.

Welcome, good to meet you.

--Mac

[ursilentsingr]

Thanks for the welcome and the kind words. :)

[isa_burning]

I think you'll definitely free yourself and you have to be gentle with yourself and understand that it will take as long as it takes for you to recover.

One important reminder, though: it is not your job to make yourself acceptable for other people. It is their job to accept you in lve as is, as much as they can. If you recover, it should only be for you. ♥ After that, the intimacy will come when it comes, and with a patient and loving partner it doesn't even have to be an issue.

To help some, maybe think of how far you HAVE come and what little things HAVE changed. You've probably progressed in ways you can't even imagine!

Welcome to our little crew. ♥

[ursilentsingr]

Thanks. I'm usually an incredibly optimistic person. I think that's part of what's gotten me so far. It was just a big let down to see such a great relationship pass because I haven't really dealt with things. I've always said that two complete people come together to make a wonderful relationship, not broken halves. I'm glad I've had this relationship because I noticed it.

[moondaughter20]

Hi