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When I laughed at the sweet 'stache my brother had coming in, he told me that if I had a problem with Sanchez he'd have to fight me.
I went home yesterday tp hang out with my brother and play Guitar Hero. It was assumed that my father was going to pick him up later, but when Zach called he pulled the whole "I just got home from work, I can't pick you up". Mom was just about to leave for her second job. So I drove him although I was fighting the trip from mom's (Mt. Washington), to my father's (Batavia) and then back to my place (Clifton). On the way to his house after we stopped by at Starbuck's to say hi to mom, he asked me if I knew what high school he would go to if he moved in with mom. I wasn't for sure, and I asked him why. He told me he didn't like that mom had to get a second job to pay child support. My parents always have shielded him from all of our dirty, unpleasant secrets, and I felt like he needed to be filled in on them. He's old enough now. I told him that mom is working twenty-five to thirty hours part-time, that she also had to get rid of her 401K. My father filled the paperwork two days after my birthday, but he couldn't even call me to wish me a happy birthday. Since the paper work took several months to go through court, mom is paying a ridiculous amount in addition to what she already pays for the back time. He told me that it didn't make any sense because my father makes a good amount more than mom. (That's its own issue; I'm trying to get my mom to request an adjustment but she thinks it's pointless, and I can't really say I blame her with the ways I've seen the court work.) I told him mom called my father (a miraculous event) and lied about giving me a good amount of money every month to see if he would pay for half of my education expenses. He said he would, and I really hope he actually goes through with what he said. If mom had an additional three hundred dollars a month, that would relieve so much financial strain that she is having over this child support.
Zachary has reached a maturity level I've been hoping would arrive for over a year. I think he's finally beginning to understand how things really came to be the way they are in my family. With that new light, he's finding emotional strings more important than material wealth and smaller expectations.
I wanted to tell my mom what he said, but I'm too fearful of her becoming attached to the idea of him coming home. Through everything she has honestly believed that things would suddenly change and Zach would want to come home. I want him to come home too, but if he doesn't I don't want my mom to be brought down that much more. It's really in my brother's hands, and I think he's coming to that realization. No matter what he does, I'm glad to see him opening up to reality.
I went home yesterday tp hang out with my brother and play Guitar Hero. It was assumed that my father was going to pick him up later, but when Zach called he pulled the whole "I just got home from work, I can't pick you up". Mom was just about to leave for her second job. So I drove him although I was fighting the trip from mom's (Mt. Washington), to my father's (Batavia) and then back to my place (Clifton). On the way to his house after we stopped by at Starbuck's to say hi to mom, he asked me if I knew what high school he would go to if he moved in with mom. I wasn't for sure, and I asked him why. He told me he didn't like that mom had to get a second job to pay child support. My parents always have shielded him from all of our dirty, unpleasant secrets, and I felt like he needed to be filled in on them. He's old enough now. I told him that mom is working twenty-five to thirty hours part-time, that she also had to get rid of her 401K. My father filled the paperwork two days after my birthday, but he couldn't even call me to wish me a happy birthday. Since the paper work took several months to go through court, mom is paying a ridiculous amount in addition to what she already pays for the back time. He told me that it didn't make any sense because my father makes a good amount more than mom. (That's its own issue; I'm trying to get my mom to request an adjustment but she thinks it's pointless, and I can't really say I blame her with the ways I've seen the court work.) I told him mom called my father (a miraculous event) and lied about giving me a good amount of money every month to see if he would pay for half of my education expenses. He said he would, and I really hope he actually goes through with what he said. If mom had an additional three hundred dollars a month, that would relieve so much financial strain that she is having over this child support.
Zachary has reached a maturity level I've been hoping would arrive for over a year. I think he's finally beginning to understand how things really came to be the way they are in my family. With that new light, he's finding emotional strings more important than material wealth and smaller expectations.
I wanted to tell my mom what he said, but I'm too fearful of her becoming attached to the idea of him coming home. Through everything she has honestly believed that things would suddenly change and Zach would want to come home. I want him to come home too, but if he doesn't I don't want my mom to be brought down that much more. It's really in my brother's hands, and I think he's coming to that realization. No matter what he does, I'm glad to see him opening up to reality.