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[heraclitus]

I am no longer in love. It started two weeks ago, and the process of falling out of love is pretty much finished at this point. It was prompted when a friend informed me that the girl in question had made a comparison between me and a fictional character. The comparison wasn't insulting (though I will admit it's to a character I don't like, but am

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[bryanscott]

"Once upon a time I was falling in love,
but now I'm only falling apart.
There's nothing I can do -
a total eclipse of the heart.
Once upon a time there was light in my life,
but now there's only love in the dark.
Nothing I can say -
a total eclipse of the heart."

[scriabin]

It's pretty much truism that women are more emotional/irrational/romantic and guys more cerebral/practical/intellectual. I've found it to be roughly true for smart/worthy people, at least. Basically every single problem that's ever cropped up between me and a girl is directly due to this split. It seems pretty obvious to me that your emotional or feminine side is atrophying, and the longer you spend in estrangement from the opposite sex, the worse this will become. You're writing these analytical critiques of your own behavior (not, please note, your feelings) and you obviously hope that you can resolve your problems only by understanding them thoroughly. This is a reasonable idea, but is not (in my experience) at all the way to the heart or any other body part of a feminine woman. It's not that girls are illogical or irrational or against understanding one's own emotions; it's just that, where feelings are involved, their nature tends to rebel against choosing the mind over the heart.

[scriabin]

In a sentence: I put myself in the shoes of most any girl I know well, and your entry turned me RIGHT off. It's (hopefully) not from the heart.

[merryprankster]

Actually, I think the average woman would be much more turned off by men who make Edwardian-sounding false dichotomies regarding the "irrational female nature" than by men who engage in succinct and productive self-analysis.

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[anonymous]

Holy crap, overanalyze much? Love isn't some mystical thing that can only be for this or for that reason. It just is. Anyway, I think when you love someone you don't know that perhaps it is lust... or perhaps just obsession.

Next time, sack up, be a man, and at least talk to the person enough for them to tell you to get lost. Creep.