It may take moving out. My mom went through the same stuff with my sister and the longer she stayed here, the more strained the relationship was got.
She moved out last weekend. My mom didn't take it very well at first, but now, I think she's accepting it and slowly realizing that her daughters are growing up and need to learn and experience life on their own. I will keep you updated on the situation and if it helps or not, if you'd like.
But I understand where you're coming from. It may just be the whole Asian parents and culture thing, but they seem to have much more difficulty letting us go than other parents do.
Hang in there, Wes. The string gets cut at some point.
i don't think it would take moving out, see, wes has a good relationship with his mother, just he's been going around the block with all the things in his life that he forgot to just sit down and see his mom once in a while.
when i moved out, my mom would call me like everyday to get me to come help her with something or other, and at the time, even though i wanted to grow up, i knew that that was her way of seeing me. My mom and I are very close, so any chance she gets to call me, she'll call me.
"Liiiiiisaaaa, whatchu doin'?" XD
my mom was never really good with just calling and talking to me, everytime she called it had to be for something because she cant really come up with chit chat. I think this is same for my older brother too, but thats another story.
Anyway, Just plan a few days with your mom and dad, maybe your mom since it sounds like she's the one who wants to hang out with you the most. Family is important, you know this, wes XD.
i have to agree with lisa. i dont think you need to move out cause you guys get along.
but i dont think a little lie of certain events in your life is bad either, just so you have SOME sort of freedom and saneness. ..... but i wouldnt mess with their minds either. i found that joking and sarcasm had a way of backfiring EVERYTIME.
i think i need to move out since the longer i seem to stay around my mother the more we fight. hence the fact that im never home and always at work or drive 3 cities away and not come home till theyre all passed out. and at the same time shes bought up the idea of me moving out since shes too stressed with me. hahahaha .. meaning shes starting to let go of me.
but hang in there. your mom will eventually realize that she cant always have you like shes had all these years. that and at least youre trying to be there
also, i learned that you can tell the truth to your parents, just select what parts of the truth you want them to know.
when she asked what your plans were, just say "I'm meeting up with some friends of mine." instead of saying "I'm meeting up with some friends of mine that i met over an internet forum about the type of car I drive." O_o Parents kind of have a faint heart, anything you do is possibly threatening to your life. So be careful what you say to her. Assure her with the utmost respect that she has raised you right, and you are happy with where your life is at.
^^ Your mom is lonely~~ and you're her only son~~ So cheer her on for being a great mom. ^^
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She moved out last weekend. My mom didn't take it very well at first, but now, I think she's accepting it and slowly realizing that her daughters are growing up and need to learn and experience life on their own. I will keep you updated on the situation and if it helps or not, if you'd like.
But I understand where you're coming from. It may just be the whole Asian parents and culture thing, but they seem to have much more difficulty letting us go than other parents do.
Hang in there, Wes. The string gets cut at some point.
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when i moved out, my mom would call me like everyday to get me to come help her with something or other, and at the time, even though i wanted to grow up, i knew that that was her way of seeing me. My mom and I are very close, so any chance she gets to call me, she'll call me.
"Liiiiiisaaaa, whatchu doin'?" XD
my mom was never really good with just calling and talking to me, everytime she called it had to be for something because she cant really come up with chit chat. I think this is same for my older brother too, but thats another story.
Anyway, Just plan a few days with your mom and dad, maybe your mom since it sounds like she's the one who wants to hang out with you the most. Family is important, you know this, wes XD.
^^ thats all~~
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but i dont think a little lie of certain events in your life is bad either, just so you have SOME sort of freedom and saneness. ..... but i wouldnt mess with their minds either. i found that joking and sarcasm had a way of backfiring EVERYTIME.
i think i need to move out since the longer i seem to stay around my mother the more we fight. hence the fact that im never home and always at work or drive 3 cities away and not come home till theyre all passed out. and at the same time shes bought up the idea of me moving out since shes too stressed with me. hahahaha .. meaning shes starting to let go of me.
but hang in there. your mom will eventually realize that she cant always have you like shes had all these years. that and at least youre trying to be there
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when she asked what your plans were, just say "I'm meeting up with some friends of mine." instead of saying "I'm meeting up with some friends of mine that i met over an internet forum about the type of car I drive." O_o Parents kind of have a faint heart, anything you do is possibly threatening to your life. So be careful what you say to her. Assure her with the utmost respect that she has raised you right, and you are happy with where your life is at.
^^ Your mom is lonely~~ and you're her only son~~ So cheer her on for being a great mom. ^^
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