Anniversary

[hestia8]

 Today is the 20th anniversary of my mum’s death. I don’t talk about it online every year, but twenty years is a really, really long time (yesterday I found a comment from 2005 where I said nine years felt like a long time!) and I felt like I needed to mention it. It’s been on my mind all week.

I miss her a lot, and it has been such a long time

Comments

[fredbassett]

I'm so sorry. It's a horrible burden to bear. I remember how my brother and I felt on the 20th anniversary of our dad's death. He died when I was 31. My mother died when I was 4.

My mother in law asked last night whether I was interested in family history, genealogy and stuff, and I thought about it and said no. there's no one left for me to even discuss it with except an older cousin who I rarely see and my niece. It would just end up making me sadder.

People say time heals, but it also adds additional poignancy to the memories.

[hestia8]

Thank you. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents as well (I am terrified of the time when I will have to carry on without my dad, but I can't do anything to change it so I'll just have to deal with it). It's so tough.

What I know of my mum's early life from other relatives was really not happy (she had lost both parents by about the age of 7 iirc), so looking into it more is not something that ever appealed.

Being so distant from it definitely makes it easier to deal with, but you're totally right.

[sefkhet]

I am thinking of you.

Last year was the 20th anniversary of my dad's death. He died when I was 10. And I can't say I know exactly how you feel, because no one ever knows exactly how you feel, but... I get it.

[hestia8]

Thank you, I appreciate it, and I'm sorry to hear about your dad too.

It's a pretty rubbish club to be in!

[fififolle]

I'm so very, very sorry to hear you lost your mum when you were so young. Many, many hugs xxx

[hestia8]

Thank you. xx

[aelfgyfu_mead]

I'm very sorry.

***hugs***

[hestia8]

Thank you, I appreciate the comment.

xx