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[hesychasm]

Over the past few weeks, I've been watching a discussion in the online science fiction & fantasy community about a writer from Thailand named Benjanun Sriduangkaew. The TL;DR version is that this woman had two online lives. One was her Sriduangkaew pen name, under which she was apparently very friendly and kind to her fellow writers and sold

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[rachelmanija]

I really appreciate you writing this.

[hesychasm]

Well, it took me long enough! I was thinking, if we'd known each other in 2011, would I have spoken out more then, and afterward with the stalking? Regrets, sigh...

[rachelmanija]

You DID speak up earlier! I'm not sure what more you could have done.

By the time she got around to the stalking, the political climate seemed very much in favor of her. I saw so many people applauding her and praising her acid attack tweets and so forth. It literally never occurred to me to publicly protest her stalking and harassing me, because it never occurred to me that the community as a whole would think it was wrong.

I could have put up my same post earlier and you could have put up yours, but I'm not sure what sort of response they would have gotten. I know some people think the Mixon report was overkill, but I think it took that to get past the pre-existing belief that whatever she did was by definition righteous.

[kita0610]

This is a well crafted, obviously well thought out post. I respect the hell out of it. And of you. That's all I got for the moment, but it's heartfelt.

[hesychasm]

I appreciate it! *hugs*

[destina]

I have always had so much respect for you and your point of view, but right now that respect is honestly off the charts. I admire you for speaking out. I'm sorry that the circumstances have made you feel it is necessary, because I'm certain that it is terribly stressful.

[hesychasm]

Stressful in that I used to wade into wank with more regularity, and this time around I really had to convince myself this was worth whatever the resulting hassle might be. But I would have regretted staying silent. I'm glad it resonated with you.

[rheasilvia]

This is mind-boggling. I'm so sorry you and all the other victims of this person had to go through this, and that she managed to do such wide-spread damage. I will never understand people like her (?), who think nothing of deliberately abusing others, and of equally deliberately subverting the cause they claim to stand for.

Thank you for speaking, and thank you for putting the Sriduangkaew matter in its larger context.

[hesychasm]

Thanks for reading! I think my conflict with Sriduangkaew was rather mild compared to others -- I really did think she was just a troll. It was more the larger context of people supporting that kind of abuse which made me feel...not like a victim, exactly, but like my viewpoint wasn't valid or worthwhile even though we were all supposed to be on the same "side."