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[hexagonalcarbon]

I'm still very concerned about finding a girlfriend. The pickings seem pretty slim at work, so I think that's not an option, and the pickings at the local girlfriend store seem pretty slim, so that's probably not an option either. My image consultant says I should go to bars to meet people. I'm not a big bar person, but I have been to bars a few

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[coprock]

We know one person who has made friends in bars, primarily through Karaoke. I don't think you'd enjoy that method.

Coffee shops seems like a better option.

[viksin]

Find some volunteer work. You'll likely meet people who are not drunk and have at least a thing or two in common with you. Also, invite groups of people to your home for games or movies, and let them bring a guest or two.

My sister recently met a guy at one of these gatherings. I was invited, and brought her along. I would never have introduced her to this guy, but they met and hit it off. You just never know.

[ilexcassine]

Maybe a class of some sort that might allow for meeting people (my brother once wound up in a flower arranging class and it was just him and 30 women- he was pretty bemused. so something like that might work)? I like the volunteer idea too. Maybe there is an atheist or secular humanist group that might be interesting (I know people meet up via church stuff a lot, but ugh, so I was trying to think of an equivalent). Maybe a local bookstore has a book club?

I meet new friends through other friends, generally, or by doing things (classes, etc.). Can you ask other folks to set you up with people?

Bars are awful. Don't torture yourself.

[jodi]

I agree that bars are awful. I don't understand how anyone would want to limit the people they meet to the self-selected bar population

[eqe]

I suspect your image consultant thinks you intend "girlfriend" to mean "woman who lets me into her pants occasionally, probably while drunk".

There are at least 10 relationships due to Noisebridge, including one actual marriage. (Admittedly it's a marriage of convenience for legal reasons, but they are actually married).

So, yes, nonprofit activities are good. Far too many of them are churchy, though. Perhaps artistic collaboration groups would be good, though.

Meeting your friends' friends is probably the best option. I don't think our mutual friends would have hooked up me with any of my last 4 girlfriends, but we managed to click at parties hosted by various friends.