Couples Therapy catch-up
Haha. Even more catch up than with Trever.
[12.1] Comfort.
Comfort is, in a physical sense, being in between Trever and Tobias. Just sitting or laying between the two. In other senses, it's knowing that I'm not alone. That Tobias knows what I'm feeling. The great big emptiness. Even if it's not enough. I don't think any thing could comfort me enough. But knowing that he's there, that he's not going to leave me. Is somewhat of a comfort.
[13.1] . Discuss how a previous relationship has influenced who you are today.
Never really had a previous relationship, unless you count Trever. That's what I get for growing up isolated. My parents relationship, however, showed me that anything could work though. A Jedi hunter and a Jedi falling in love and getting married? How likely is that? But it happened. And they're so different from each other. Dad's very serene and thoughtful, while mom... has a Very Big Gun and she's not afraid to use it. It made me wonder a lot about what really creates a relationship.
[14.4] React (in any way you'd like) to this quote:
Mark Darcy: I like you, very much.
Bridget: Ah, apart from the smoking and the drinking, the vulgar mother and... ah, the verbal diarrhea.
Mark Darcy: No, I like you very much. Just as you are.
--Bridget Jones's Diary
Tobias is an angsty sort of martyr and Trever is well, I imagine he may eventually actually go Dark Side. Still, I wouldn't change them despite the fact that it will probably get them killed.
And me killed.
Tobias being the only reason, I think, that Akay hasn't killed me yet.
But that's who they are. And if they stopped doing that they wouldn't be who they are. I don't mean, though, that they should stay like that forever, but if it was a sudden change, then it would be wrong. There's no way that they could just change. Trever's been too influenced by the Dark Side and he's been struggling to stay Light or Gray Side. He's always had that temper. That... I dunno. Tobias on the other hand, has a lot of guilt in him. I don't think that'll ever go away. Blowing up an entire planet like that and being right there when it happened. I'm just afraid he'll go off and kill himself. Not suicide so much as throw himself in a situation where he knows he can't win.
[15.1] Discuss how your personal style is similar to or different from your partner's.
Tobias and I are rather different with our styles. He's very methodical, melancholy and serious. I'm well, not very serious though been having bits of melancholy. He absolutely refuses to wear anything but his robes and has a very nice scruffy beard. I don't like the robes at all. He still considers me his padawan, even though I don't have a connection to the Force. Once I lost it... I didn't see the point. He considers padawans as those under his care and tutelage. I guess he's less selfish than I am. More open minded.
[12.1] Comfort.
Comfort is, in a physical sense, being in between Trever and Tobias. Just sitting or laying between the two. In other senses, it's knowing that I'm not alone. That Tobias knows what I'm feeling. The great big emptiness. Even if it's not enough. I don't think any thing could comfort me enough. But knowing that he's there, that he's not going to leave me. Is somewhat of a comfort.
[13.1] . Discuss how a previous relationship has influenced who you are today.
Never really had a previous relationship, unless you count Trever. That's what I get for growing up isolated. My parents relationship, however, showed me that anything could work though. A Jedi hunter and a Jedi falling in love and getting married? How likely is that? But it happened. And they're so different from each other. Dad's very serene and thoughtful, while mom... has a Very Big Gun and she's not afraid to use it. It made me wonder a lot about what really creates a relationship.
[14.4] React (in any way you'd like) to this quote:
Mark Darcy: I like you, very much.
Bridget: Ah, apart from the smoking and the drinking, the vulgar mother and... ah, the verbal diarrhea.
Mark Darcy: No, I like you very much. Just as you are.
--Bridget Jones's Diary
Tobias is an angsty sort of martyr and Trever is well, I imagine he may eventually actually go Dark Side. Still, I wouldn't change them despite the fact that it will probably get them killed.
And me killed.
Tobias being the only reason, I think, that Akay hasn't killed me yet.
But that's who they are. And if they stopped doing that they wouldn't be who they are. I don't mean, though, that they should stay like that forever, but if it was a sudden change, then it would be wrong. There's no way that they could just change. Trever's been too influenced by the Dark Side and he's been struggling to stay Light or Gray Side. He's always had that temper. That... I dunno. Tobias on the other hand, has a lot of guilt in him. I don't think that'll ever go away. Blowing up an entire planet like that and being right there when it happened. I'm just afraid he'll go off and kill himself. Not suicide so much as throw himself in a situation where he knows he can't win.
[15.1] Discuss how your personal style is similar to or different from your partner's.
Tobias and I are rather different with our styles. He's very methodical, melancholy and serious. I'm well, not very serious though been having bits of melancholy. He absolutely refuses to wear anything but his robes and has a very nice scruffy beard. I don't like the robes at all. He still considers me his padawan, even though I don't have a connection to the Force. Once I lost it... I didn't see the point. He considers padawans as those under his care and tutelage. I guess he's less selfish than I am. More open minded.