Although this is obviously a rough thing right now, there's always the hope that those half truths lead to more full disclosure and hopefully a happier life for each of your parents.
I really don't know what I'm talking about with this subject, but I hope it (and the job situation) works out well.
Yeah, I really do hope that my mother is better for the divorce. I also hope that whatever my dad might be struggling with will be attended to and that he'll grow stronger and happier for it in the end as well. I don't know the full extent of what happened yet, but I'm doing my best to keep it in my head that this was a man who did the best he could under the circumstances for his family and that this doesn't overshadow his past accomplishments.
geez... I'm sorry darren! I have discovered that now my parents consider me an adult i have also become suddenly privy to a lot of problems etc they previously hid from me.. So in a year or two everything went from hunky dory (in my perception) to FUBAR. Growing up sucks that way. I hope for the best for you and your family.
It isn't so much a startling revelation as a general unease at knowing that there were things going on that I just couldn't notice as a child. Sort of like passing through fog in a boat and then realizing you were surrounded by reef the whole way once you are free of it. Maybe that's overly dramatic. Nevertheless, yes, growing up does suck that way.
Like Brian said, I am really sorry and I don't know that anything else I can say will help here. At the very least you have a lot of friends who are more than willing to listen if you need to talk about anything, ever. We're also here to distract you if that would help, of course.
Hopefully, at some level, this situation potentially gives you the space to be able to communicate more openly as a family. I know it must hurt a lot to feel like you were lied to for a long time, but maybe there are some other ways of looking at it. As a little kid, you shouldn't have to know everything that's going on at home, especially if it's a lot bigger than you. As an adult, you have the gift of being able to emotionally digest what happens between your parents, and maybe in some ways, it's better that you didn't always know, so that you could grow up stronger for it today. (I don't mean to minimize it, though, because it is certainly an important event and one that is just as hard to think about as an adult as it is for a kid.)
I don't know that I'm hurt. I think it's just more like "Wow, now of all times is when things finally decided to crack."
Obviously we're all adults at this point and there isn't really a sense of losing a level of support for me like there might be if I were a kid. I'm more just wondering what I may have missed. Ultimately, though, I think it's between them and contingent upon them each to sort it out.
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I really don't know what I'm talking about with this subject, but I hope it (and the job situation) works out well.
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But, yeah, hopefully it'll help them both out.
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It isn't so much a startling revelation as a general unease at knowing that there were things going on that I just couldn't notice as a child. Sort of like passing through fog in a boat and then realizing you were surrounded by reef the whole way once you are free of it. Maybe that's overly dramatic. Nevertheless, yes, growing up does suck that way.
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I hope things look up POST HASTE! That potential new job sounds kind of fun, or at least interesting. Good luck, good luck, good luck!
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Obviously we're all adults at this point and there isn't really a sense of losing a level of support for me like there might be if I were a kid. I'm more just wondering what I may have missed. Ultimately, though, I think it's between them and contingent upon them each to sort it out.
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