Ideas for getting more out of life
I've been trapping myself into being unhappy far too much recently. I've come up with some reminders to myself for how to be make sure I'm staying the path of happiness. Comments?
Four things to remember
I need to give myself permission to enjoy myself. I think that I stand in the way of having the sort of fun that I want to have, and quite simply I need to stop blocking my own enjoyment of life.
Me first. I need to look after my own needs and wants, because if I don't nobody else will. "Me first" doesn't mean that I should be insensitive or hurt other people, but I should do the things I want
to do in life.
As part of that I need to turn down the gain on my sensitivity to my wife. I read her body language as being unhappy or as objecting, and consider that an objection. But that's not fair to myself. I should not invent objections or unhappiness for her. If she has an objection to something I want to do, she should voice it. (It goes without saying that I should listen to those voiced objections, not necessarily give them veto power, but listen and adjust).
If there is something that I want to do and my partner is neutral about it, I can go ahead. An expression of neutral interest on her part should never override my positive desire. Only if she is truly opposed to an activity, should that activity be blocked.
Four things to remember
I need to give myself permission to enjoy myself. I think that I stand in the way of having the sort of fun that I want to have, and quite simply I need to stop blocking my own enjoyment of life.
Me first. I need to look after my own needs and wants, because if I don't nobody else will. "Me first" doesn't mean that I should be insensitive or hurt other people, but I should do the things I want
to do in life.
As part of that I need to turn down the gain on my sensitivity to my wife. I read her body language as being unhappy or as objecting, and consider that an objection. But that's not fair to myself. I should not invent objections or unhappiness for her. If she has an objection to something I want to do, she should voice it. (It goes without saying that I should listen to those voiced objections, not necessarily give them veto power, but listen and adjust).
If there is something that I want to do and my partner is neutral about it, I can go ahead. An expression of neutral interest on her part should never override my positive desire. Only if she is truly opposed to an activity, should that activity be blocked.