Let's have a mature, rational discussion about sex, shall we?

[hobbitxcore]

I considered making this into a video, but it was running a bit long. I might still make a shorter video about it.

So recently, this has been happening:

Person I don't know: "Hey, you're a lesbian right?"

Me, trying to be polite: "No, no I'm not."

Other person, with a skeptical look: "Are you sure?"

Me, annoyed: "...yeah."

Let me clarify, It doesn't

Comments

[beggarsfarm]

I'm not especially social as shy as I am, so this has never happened to me. However, I also don't wear makeup (fuck that noise) and have short hair and like rainbows and glitter and like plaid

[hobbitxcore]

I feel asexual at times as well, or that the majority of people I meet view me as asexual, because I've never seen evidence of someone thinking of me that way, save for a few douchebags I dated a while ago. I'm also not very comfortable with the idea of sex completely, and I'm not experienced at all. That is also another reason I decided to not worry about dating. Every time I've had "the discussion" with someone I was dating and they found out I hadn't ever done anything, instead of just waiting a little longer until I was ready, they just decided to it wasn't worth it. So, I just decided I had better shit to do and stopped trying. I assume it will happen eventually. I do worry about it sometimes, though.

[beggarsfarm]

I think I just had a really rough first experience that played on my already present insecurities and made me want to avoid sex more often than not. When you mention people not wanting to wait I feel like that is how it was in that relationship although instead of leaving he just completely treated me like an object for his satisfaction. I dealt with constant groping, pressuring and physical forcing despite consistently saying no or asking for patience

[hobbitxcore]

Yeah, I used to think that about guys as well. It's probably why I've done as much as I have, and things generally went faster than I wanted them to. The more I just get to know people though, the more I realize that all men aren't the same, and there are some who don't think about it. They're usually older, or in the same boat I am and just have no experience.