Comments | honeymagnolia: re: 10/20 entry

honeymagnolia

re: 10/20 entry

Oct 22, 2006 21:55

If you think that I was being self-absorbed, judgmental, and self-centered, well, you may be right-- I can certainly be all of those things-- but where does that come from? The "not sure I've ever been more ... by someone else than they are by me?" That is self-absorbed. I know that. I said that. It's also truly true. I get a lot of "Wow, ( Read more... )

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forkingpaths October 23 2006, 06:36:43 UTC

lol - jane, I don't think you *are* those things! I was just curious to see what was really behind the comment, and your answer has more than satisfied me. You're thinking about things, as you've always done. :) You're comfortable in your skin, and that is a great thing, and not something everyone obtains. I knew you had said that that's how it sounded - it's just something that jarred me all of a sudden when I read that and remember that bumper sticker you sent me that I still have in my room: "remember who you wanted to be"... I can't precisely pinpoint why, because i'm incredibly sleep deprived. Alot of my time in Cambridge, around some really shallow, egotistical people and some really wonderful people made me think about it alot. I guess in some ways when you begin to shape in your head the person you want to be, all else starts to fold into place... But again, I don't know... I have every confidence in you, though ( ... )

Oh Rache! iamnight October 23 2006, 21:41:33 UTC

You have every right to feel what you do, and say what you think, and that's true whether it's 100% or 2% positive. To get those things off your mind and heart is invaluable, and to apologize for them after the fact, I feel, diminishes the fact you were trying to express something that was on your mind. Diminishes the strength of saying: "I feel this, even if I can't articulate it 100% correctly..."

You're quite lovely as you are, and when you speak your heart about something, it isn't vile or angry or contemptuous. It is to seek and so 'tis I hope there comes a time you express these things without apology, and with confidence in yourself.

IMO. ;)

Re: Oh Rache! forkingpaths October 24 2006, 01:36:40 UTC

I'm not sorry for having said the things I did (although I think I could have been clearer) - I am sorry if it caused hurt, though. I don't mind expressing my feelings or opinions because, well, I've learned that it's better to be wrong, and then corrected then just always wrong. Plus, if you open a dialogue then there's a chance for you to say: "Hey, this is how this seems to me" and then the discussion that ensues has a chance to be enlightening to everyone who can keep an open mind about it...

Does that make sense? anyhoo, I love you and gotta run!

grasshopper47 October 26 2006, 01:41:21 UTC

Here's my advice, hopefully it makes some sense / isn't too floofy. When someone compliments you, try meditating on it for awhile / let it really sink in, and then move on from that. This way you can really take the compliment inward, without letting it bounce around on the surface. Learning how to not "get puffed up" can be a difficult lesson (as I would know, being a Leo). It might help to think about what other things besides yourself have enabled you to do something / be a certain way that illicited the compliment. This way as you think to yourself about how much you respect and like yourself, you can also incorporate some gratitude about the things that have enabled you to be so deserving of respect and other wonderful things.

Anyhows, I realize I may be way off here, but I thought I might give it a shot in case there might be something swimming around in my head that might make sense / help out.

I hope you don't get too bogged down in this stuff either, because it's probably better to have higher self-esteem than lower.Hugs