Socialization and Trust: Is the Bliss Worth the Ignorance?

[hooga_shaka]

When I analyze any given topic, I like to do so from personal experience and from at least two opposite points of view. Obviously this isn’t always possible, but fortunately today’s topic is one I am glad I can do that with. Right now I think it’s safe to say I have no good friends, and few peers above acquaintance (and to an extent I prefer it

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[anonymous]

dear aaron,
I 'm in love with you,
let me mother your babies

thanks.
Anon

[hooga_shaka]

"anonymous", interesting

In the words of Foamy: (my loard and master)

[livesintheshado]

"HAHA you have a stalker I dont you do you're gonna die, I can sleep at night haha!"

(www.illwillpress.com *click on toons and watch some they are funnie*)

Interesting

[livesintheshado]

Wow, that was food for thought!! Gee wiz you write alot! But its always interesting!

[jonerfan_lalu]

i'd have to agree with you, i talk about some stupid shit like how badly i beat someone in a game etc.., but i do talk about real problems becuase i realize their not gonna go away by just sitting here, so everyday i chat with my mom n step dad about real life problems that i have to deal with. what im trying to say is that people dont want to face the facts because its not appeling, nobody likes getting burned so we stay away from fire, well nobody likes talking about significant issues so we stay away from them, theres a time and place for everything and when people get the choice between pain or pleasure 100% of them would vote pleasure so they figure why bring it up if its not necessary, life if you go and discuss why flint sparks to create fire nobody is gonna care, but if you bring up you percentage completion in a video game its all ears.

[jonerfan_lalu]

oh and i still remember the first day you talked to me in 8th grade, your still considred a really good friend of mine

[hooga_shaka]

haha yeah I remember that too, WEEZER!

[jonerfan_lalu]

i never looked like him though haha, i think because i looked like i was hittin the pipes...hash pipe?

[mimewithprops]

Congrats Aaron, that was magnificently written. You know it makes you wonder how many brain cells are actually wastes it fruitless socialization that in two to three hours will be forgotten anyway. Why does society insist on discussing irrelevant issues? That's a great point Aaron, but I think that neither you nor I can answer that, directly. It could be afraid of being accepted for discussing important problems, or maybe even upbringing such as a child who's taught never to display emotion. They may never talk about serious issues because of their upbringing. Overall though I think that people have an innate fear of being "shunned" from the group, so they keep the serious things inside themselves

[jonerfan_lalu]

that was really good, and true nobody controls the free mind n nobody should. but their are too many factors surroundings, audience, the person talking, the subject etc.. i guess the story is only as good as the audience, socialization is just something nobody really thought about because their too many incomming factors to change the slightest point of view, and when someone tells you a deep secret dont go blabbin it out cause if they trust you enough to tell you something deep than respect their choice

[mimewithprops]

Well that brings up the whole choice issue, but that's neither here nor there.

[hooga_shaka]

Glad you enjoyed it man.

What you said about the possible cause being a person's upbringing is very true, but I believe that no matter what the cause, the results are very much the same.

I agree with you that someone offers total trust to very few people (or no one at all), and giving someone total trust is definitely a conscious act. But that is not the kind of trust used in typical socialization, so I don't really think it factors in.

"What decides what is important and unimportant in conversation?"

The answer is surprisingly simple. Everyone. There is no grand universal truth to whether or not the fact I had chili for dinner last night is important enough to warrant conversation with others. It's all very relative.

[lmbm4life]

interesting thought process i have thought some of these things myself but what you say makes a person think... just make sure YOU really think what you say and are not just saying something in the moment of irritation