Liking...

[hooked2trance]

How do you know if you are genuinely liking the person himself, and not "liking" the person simply because you are fond of being liked?

How do you tell? How do you differentiate? How do you warn yourself of the latter, and not lead someone on?

Hm... It can be hard to draw the line...

Comments

[nikheart]

yea, been in that situation before... and yea its really hard to tell the diff! but in retrospect, for me i realize that actually i do noe whether i like the guy or not... it's juz a matter of not wanting to admit to myself and then forego the "chance" i have with the guy... afterall, somehow or other they dun come by so easy...

[hooked2trance]

Hm, I feel it's especially harder when the person does not quite fit your overall ideal type, but still has a few or some characteristics that I find are rather endearing or attractive...

And overall, I can't make myself say if that person is attractive, and I cannot also say if he's totally not my type.

Perhaps that's because I never subscribe to the thinking of "My boyfriend must be one-type-that-kind".

Recently I thought about how some couples, who didn't think they were each others' type, could actually get together and last for quite a number of years...

So instead of just brushing it aside, thinking that I am not so attracted to that individual, I am considering of "giving it a try".

Just in case, that I might miss out a golden opportunity and a nice surprise...

[cicada84]

I don't really have much experience with dating so I wonder if I could even answer the question myself. I've seen ppl 'test drive' before in such situations (er hem...you know who), and broke many hearts along the way. I think the problem is while one party may think that they're just 'testdriving', the other one may think that they've already 'bought the car and sealed the deal'! Am I making sense? Haha.

Having said that, do you intuitively have an answer? I mean, most of the time we agonise over decisions when deep down, we already seem to have an answer...

[hooked2trance]

Something tells me I should give it a try, but like what you said, I should mention that it is a "test drive" before I start the engine... =)