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[horselover101]

I can't believe Peter lied to me about his finances. He told me he had everything sorted out, but apparently he is far from having them solved. He told me he had stuff paid for that he didn't. I'm hurt that he lied to me about money. If he's willing to lie to me about a thing like this, what else is he willing to lie to me about? And it if he does

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[dragonfly_sidhe]

You probably know that Grif had a major lying problem. At first it was because he wanted to sound interesting when he spoke. If he didn't have a cool story to tell, he'd make it up. This ranged from the tiny (telling me he'd deleted a file) to telling me he'd received an e-mail from Bob about some kind of appology.

These lies nearly killed our marriage. I didn't trust him one bit.

That being said, it sounds like the lies he's told you are to try to protect your confidence in him. If he lied about the ring being almost paid off, it was to evoke a confidence that he took care of it, and there's nothing to be worried about. What he doesn't realize is that doing this is causing the exact opposite reaction.

The best advice I can give is to talk to him plainly about it. Remind him exactly what he told you, and point out the lie. Tell him why that hurts you, and why you can't trust him now for it.

Either he'll wake up, or he won't. Then you make hard decisions.

[caledoniansoul]

My wife is a very wise woman ^_^ seriously though, she is right the lies that came out of my head nearly blew us up...I still have to be careful of what I say...

He needs to grow up, and grow up now...

[garcalian]

sounds like a deal breaker to me. That's way too big and way too important.

[winter_in_asia]

Get out now before it's too late.