Okay. I appreciate you reading this novel, I appreciate you seeing my point of view.
However, the comment on my boyfriend / me for dating him isn't what I'm interested in. Repeatedly talking to this idiot hasn't helped, and it's another reason we chose another apartment - he isn't changing so we're doing what's best for our kiddos.
But you're still going to let him move with you if he wants to, which means you're leaving your animals open for more abuse. The above comment is likely meant to point out that since his behaviour hasn't changed in regard to your animals despite what you've told him, both you and your boyfriend should have kicked his ass out well before this, because he's a leech and he mistreats your animals.
I agree with the above commenter, the jackass should be out on the street already.
The reason we would let him is because we are going at a speed faster than he expected. I would be fine just sending him on his way, but there's history with the boyfriend that makes him not kick him out. He helped the boyfriend out during a shit marriage and divorce, how? I have no idea, with this guys social abilities, but, before my times :P
The pets stay in the back area of the apartment 90% of the time and so the interactions are limited thankfully, but anytime I do see him negatively interact with them I call him on it. Usually he retorts with some idiotic statement and flounces off to his room, which is fine with me. I'd rather he holes up than pushing on and bothering us.
I do get what you guys are saying, but kicking him out isn't on the table and physical alterations are not realistic for legal and body build / size reasons.
Edit because I forgot lol, it's totally not if he wants to, it's if he absolutely has zero other options. He's talking like he is moving in with a couple we know, but nothings 100% yet.
If you let him move in he'll have a million excuses for why he hasn't found a place yet. Not only that but you KNOW his mistreats your animals - if they were children you'd lose the kids for his behaviour because you did nothing to protect them despite knowing full well what he does to them. Seriously, tell him he's on his own and can couch surf at other people's places.
honestly, anyone who laid a hand on one of my animals in anger would not be following me to my next living arrangement. i understand that your so has some sort of friendship thing going on with this pathetic excuse for a human, but i despise anyone who strikes out at animals.
he sounds like a real piece of work. be glad to get rid of him.
40 days is long enough for him to find somewhere else to live. If you offer him a few more months at your new place then he will surely take them. Use this as an opportunity to make a clean break and get him out of your lives. Your bf can help him out in other ways (maybe help him find a place) if he feels this sense of loyalty. You need this man away from your pets.
The guy is a dick for mistreating your pets but you having a partner that cheated doesn't mean he's not allowed to make his own decisions on who to sleep with. First you complain that he innocently questioned whether or not you have sex, then you complain about personal choices regarding his sex life on a public forum because of your past issues with your ex? Really?
I didn't know she was married till he made a point of making it yet another awkward conversation with him, starting off with asking me how it had felt to find out about the ex. It's essentially the way he handled the social aspect, I can't imagine walking up to someone and saying 'so you were abused by your husband, right? How did that feel.... And then going, we'll I'm hitting my spouse, what fun!' to me it's totally poor taste.
And again, the part that bothers me is I don't view that as socially normal behavior. He's my boyfriends friend, I met him when I moved in with said boyfriend, I don't view asking if you guys are banging to be a question that is innocent to a person you haven't known for very long. But that's my opinion on what's innocent / not.
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However, the comment on my boyfriend / me for dating him isn't what I'm interested in. Repeatedly talking to this idiot hasn't helped, and it's another reason we chose another apartment - he isn't changing so we're doing what's best for our kiddos.
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I agree with the above commenter, the jackass should be out on the street already.
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The pets stay in the back area of the apartment 90% of the time and so the interactions are limited thankfully, but anytime I do see him negatively interact with them I call him on it. Usually he retorts with some idiotic statement and flounces off to his room, which is fine with me. I'd rather he holes up than pushing on and bothering us.
I do get what you guys are saying, but kicking him out isn't on the table and physical alterations are not realistic for legal and body build / size reasons.
Edit because I forgot lol, it's totally not if he wants to, it's if he absolutely has zero other options. He's talking like he is moving in with a couple we know, but nothings 100% yet.
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If you let him move in he'll have a million excuses for why he hasn't found a place yet. Not only that but you KNOW his mistreats your animals - if they were children you'd lose the kids for his behaviour because you did nothing to protect them despite knowing full well what he does to them. Seriously, tell him he's on his own and can couch surf at other people's places.
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he sounds like a real piece of work. be glad to get rid of him.
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First you complain that he innocently questioned whether or not you have sex, then you complain about personal choices regarding his sex life on a public forum because of your past issues with your ex? Really?
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And again, the part that bothers me is I don't view that as socially normal behavior. He's my boyfriends friend, I met him when I moved in with said boyfriend, I don't view asking if you guys are banging to be a question that is innocent to a person you haven't known for very long. But that's my opinion on what's innocent / not.
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