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sewmuckswurst in housematehorror

How much notice is too little notice to tell a roommate to seek greener pastures?

Jan 21, 2013 03:09

Longtime member and reader, posting under a frilly new sock account for obvious reasons, et cetera.

( Not the worst roommate, but I am so tired of her. )

Comments 7

soberloki January 21 2013, 08:26:52 UTC

A month's notice is probably the minimum decent amount of time. She'll need to arrange everything for her own place, just like you and your boyfriend, should this come about.

seidhr January 21 2013, 09:49:04 UTC

You need to give her at least 30 days notice.

I STRONGLY advise against offering her storage space or a couch to crash on. That never ends well, and you seemed pretty clear you want to keep the friendship.

lisasimpsonfan January 21 2013, 09:49:13 UTC

I wouldn't tell her anything right now. It seems rather unfair to tell her that maybe you will move in with her and many you won't depending on if your boyfriend gets a job. She has to make plans too and if she is depending on you to be her roommate it isn't fair to drop a bomb on her last minute. I would tell her that you haven't decided anything and that you will let her know what you are doing by the end of April. Since she is your friend that will give her an extra month to find a place with someone else if you don't move in together and that will give your boyfriend time to find a job.

aim2misbhave January 21 2013, 10:14:39 UTC

I'd say a month is at least courteous, since that's what most landlords require.

But, since if she thinks she'll be moving into a new place with you in July, she'll probably want to think about looking for apartments around mid-May or so, so that would likely be a good time to bring it up.

Also, I'd suggest bringing up the idea earlier, but in the context of if you're talking about your boyfriend - that's a thing that's totally normal after a certain point in relationships, and that way she won't have to feel like it's just about her.

runriverblue January 21 2013, 19:50:17 UTC

Like the others said, a month at minimum. But if you consider her a friend, I think it'd be decent to give her longer.

I'd advise against letting her crash on the couch if you go separately though. That usually doesn't end well, and two months could become three, which could become four, and on and on and she never leaves.