"One of the best ways to keep friendship is to return it."
I did not choose some happy joyous thing to post about for my return to LJ. I simply need to rant. I hate choosing roommates. My network is broken.
Roommates
After a year and a half my roommate Becky is moving out. Everyone that lives in Davis can see this is a problem since the Davis rental market works only in numbers of months divisible by 12. Next month, my other roommate Allison will be moving out. This leaves me and Hope as the remaining original roommates of a 4 bedroom house. And we have to decide if we're resigning the lease about 2 days after the first person to leave does.
Both are committed to paying their share or finding someone to sublet. But I didn't agree to live with someone else. I didn't agree to live with just Hope. (In spite of how close we are, the two of us would drive each other insane.) So I'm feeling somewhat bitter just about them moving out. Admittedly, Allison has a good reason, being pregnant and all. Doesn't make me any happier.
Now I'm being asked to pass judgment on potential roommates. These come in two breeds: friends and strangers. I don't want to hurt any of my friends. I love you all but don't want to live with most of you. This isn't meant as any slight, just that I don't think your way of life is compatible with mine within the same house. If I actually had something against you, I'd tell honestly. I've lost one friend because I had a problem with them that could not be changed, and one because they were going to remain friends with the first I lost. Breaking that friendship was hard, but I know everyone will have better lives if I tell my friends what I think of them and deal with what comes of it than if I hid things.
Besides telling some of my friends I don't want to live with them, some of the one's I do want to live with Hope doesn't. I'm sure she feels the same way as I do: not a slight, just won't work. But then I'm stuck choosing between Hope or my other friend. I'm going to choose Hope, if for no other reason than the year long lease, but it still sucks. I don't have a MySpace account and never will, if only because of the "Top Friends" section. I object: that feature is bad for friendships. (same for Facebook... I want that App to die!) Yes I like some friends better than others, I'm human too. But having to tell them that doesn't make the loser feel good, so I don't do that unless I have to.
Strangers are no better. I don't care what their Facebook profile says. I don't care how cool they seem. Meeting them a couple times won't make me want to live with them for 6 months. The former roommate I most wish I hadn't lived with is the one I lived with in the dorms. (Can't recall his name anymore.) We never had any disagreements, or any other problems, but we never had any conversation either. We just went in and out and only actually interacted with other people. I don't want that, I don't want a filled room. I want a friend.
So... I hate this. I hate the process and the things I have to do. Somehow it will work out, I just wanted to explain to those friends I say No to, and rant so that I feel better. Since I pick intelligent friends, you probably already know I don't mean anything more than "I don't think we should live together" when I say No, but its something I feel like I should say anyways.
Network
My main comp, which is brand new, pretends to connect to my network, but then DOES NOTHING. No Google, no AIM, no WoW, and certainly not the router. My backup is my laptop, which I just reloaded Windows on last night. For some unknown reason it is running SLOWER than the previous install. Firefox is luckily the next thing I installed. I got around to drivers for the laptop and Anti-virus and then quit for the night. Notably lacking from that list are all the Windows security updates. I can't say I'm particularly happy with this thing being connected to the internet just now. I might have to start from scratch again.
So while messing with a network pariah main computer, and having only a slow as hell, nothing on it, not yet secure, laptop as my backup, I get an instant message on my phone that I really need to respond to, and the response requires more typing than is practical on even my phone. Definitely didn't get around to downloading Pidgin either.[/end shameless plug]
Summary
So, that's how today went. Things in life aren't all bad. I got a couple rats, and my friends OLD magic collection. (Hello Swords to Plowshares) I'm enjoying the campaign my Warhammer 40k group is running, and leveled a second WoW character to mount range (That 40+ out of 70. Yes I level slowly, but I'm enjoying myself so STFU.) And I got rats.
I'm not sure I ever expressed on LJ before but in case anyone anyone hadn't realized: I'm a gamer. This is the simplest way to describe me. I'm not fanatical about any one game, but gaming in general I will always love and I will always do.
Happy gaming to all.
Roommates
After a year and a half my roommate Becky is moving out. Everyone that lives in Davis can see this is a problem since the Davis rental market works only in numbers of months divisible by 12. Next month, my other roommate Allison will be moving out. This leaves me and Hope as the remaining original roommates of a 4 bedroom house. And we have to decide if we're resigning the lease about 2 days after the first person to leave does.
Both are committed to paying their share or finding someone to sublet. But I didn't agree to live with someone else. I didn't agree to live with just Hope. (In spite of how close we are, the two of us would drive each other insane.) So I'm feeling somewhat bitter just about them moving out. Admittedly, Allison has a good reason, being pregnant and all. Doesn't make me any happier.
Now I'm being asked to pass judgment on potential roommates. These come in two breeds: friends and strangers. I don't want to hurt any of my friends. I love you all but don't want to live with most of you. This isn't meant as any slight, just that I don't think your way of life is compatible with mine within the same house. If I actually had something against you, I'd tell honestly. I've lost one friend because I had a problem with them that could not be changed, and one because they were going to remain friends with the first I lost. Breaking that friendship was hard, but I know everyone will have better lives if I tell my friends what I think of them and deal with what comes of it than if I hid things.
Besides telling some of my friends I don't want to live with them, some of the one's I do want to live with Hope doesn't. I'm sure she feels the same way as I do: not a slight, just won't work. But then I'm stuck choosing between Hope or my other friend. I'm going to choose Hope, if for no other reason than the year long lease, but it still sucks. I don't have a MySpace account and never will, if only because of the "Top Friends" section. I object: that feature is bad for friendships. (same for Facebook... I want that App to die!) Yes I like some friends better than others, I'm human too. But having to tell them that doesn't make the loser feel good, so I don't do that unless I have to.
Strangers are no better. I don't care what their Facebook profile says. I don't care how cool they seem. Meeting them a couple times won't make me want to live with them for 6 months. The former roommate I most wish I hadn't lived with is the one I lived with in the dorms. (Can't recall his name anymore.) We never had any disagreements, or any other problems, but we never had any conversation either. We just went in and out and only actually interacted with other people. I don't want that, I don't want a filled room. I want a friend.
So... I hate this. I hate the process and the things I have to do. Somehow it will work out, I just wanted to explain to those friends I say No to, and rant so that I feel better. Since I pick intelligent friends, you probably already know I don't mean anything more than "I don't think we should live together" when I say No, but its something I feel like I should say anyways.
Network
My main comp, which is brand new, pretends to connect to my network, but then DOES NOTHING. No Google, no AIM, no WoW, and certainly not the router. My backup is my laptop, which I just reloaded Windows on last night. For some unknown reason it is running SLOWER than the previous install. Firefox is luckily the next thing I installed. I got around to drivers for the laptop and Anti-virus and then quit for the night. Notably lacking from that list are all the Windows security updates. I can't say I'm particularly happy with this thing being connected to the internet just now. I might have to start from scratch again.
So while messing with a network pariah main computer, and having only a slow as hell, nothing on it, not yet secure, laptop as my backup, I get an instant message on my phone that I really need to respond to, and the response requires more typing than is practical on even my phone. Definitely didn't get around to downloading Pidgin either.[/end shameless plug]
Summary
So, that's how today went. Things in life aren't all bad. I got a couple rats, and my friends OLD magic collection. (Hello Swords to Plowshares) I'm enjoying the campaign my Warhammer 40k group is running, and leveled a second WoW character to mount range (That 40+ out of 70. Yes I level slowly, but I'm enjoying myself so STFU.) And I got rats.
I'm not sure I ever expressed on LJ before but in case anyone anyone hadn't realized: I'm a gamer. This is the simplest way to describe me. I'm not fanatical about any one game, but gaming in general I will always love and I will always do.
Happy gaming to all.