Comments | hydingjekyll: Alysa's leaving.

hydingjekyll

Alysa's leaving.

Jun 03, 2006 20:06

Alysa says she's going on a couple-weeks-long road trip starting on Tuesday, and moving when she gets back--both of them for the sake of getting away from me. Considering her track record with telling the truth and sticking to what she says, I'll believe it when I see it. Still, I'm hopeful. I was actually thinking about finding a new place ( Read more... )

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thirdvigilante June 4 2006, 04:45:54 UTC

*hugs*

indiefishsteak June 4 2006, 06:14:19 UTC

not too bad indeed. it took me quite a few more than that.

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hydingjekyll June 4 2006, 15:54:29 UTC

Yeah, so do I. I think that moving past her and the breakup was pretty much put on hold by being around her and having to interact with her so much. It will be good to see what happens once she's gone.

givemeathimble June 4 2006, 08:24:55 UTC

I'm sorry you had to go through this ordeal. I think it's a sad thing to lose your trust in people just over one person. The unfortunate drawback of being an extremely nice guy is that you attract girls like her who are too wraped up in their own little worlds to give a fuck about anyone else. At least that is easier to spot, and now you can recognize it and avoid it in the future. I'm just sad that she's sucked up so much of your energy and happiness.

If I were you, and you were a witch like me, I'd smudge the house to get rid of lingering energy after she leaves, especially if you are planning to stay there when she moves out. That kind of energy can stick around in corners and make you feel headachey, emotional, lethargic or even sick. I'd also do a ritual to untangle your energy from hers and to become secure in your selfhood again. Email me if your interested.

Emlyn and I love you muchly. I hope things get better quick! :-)

hydingjekyll June 4 2006, 15:57:03 UTC

I guess I'm still able to trust people, just no longer willing to do so without good reason.

metalmensch June 4 2006, 21:31:31 UTC

If you're thinking about dating someone for a bit, and if you don't want to blur the lines, it might be a good idea not to fuck them until you've decided ( ... )

hydingjekyll June 5 2006, 00:31:55 UTC

Agreed. I've learned that sex before clear lines are drawn is a recipe for trouble (serves at least two, usually more). I've walked the line between being overly rational to the point of denying emotions and giving in to emotions even though it's not a good idea, and I'm still trying to find a comfortable ground between them. These days, I'm leaning more toward being rational.

I used to think that taking people at face value meant that you were giving them the respect of trusting them, but I now agree that it's usually a bad idea to do so.

Thanks for your input.