Bad luck

[hyperblaster]

I'm not having such a great time of late. I really don't want to burden your guys with my problems. But my LJ, to me is an outlet for my troubles. All the feelings and opinions which I feel I cannot share with any one else. It's like my secret diary that somehow is shared too

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[izuko]

I feel your pain, here. My aunt has been asking about when I'm planning on getting her some great nieces and nephews (with three of the Shelley cousins being boys [well, four, but my brother doesn't count], and the fourth living so far away, I think she thinks it's time for girls). Fortuantely, my cousin had pitty on me and married his girlfriend, so some of the pressure has been off. While I have no "undesire" to get married, I'm not going to do so just for the sake of getting married. (I think maybe they figured I'd have knocked a girl up while I was in the nav and would be married by now). So you're definately not alone in the familial pressure aspect.

I'd like to give some snappy advice on how to handle it... but if you run across any, be sure to let me know.

[hyperblaster]

Fire away with the advice. I could use some.

[izuko]

Let's see... the best one I can think of is to bring one of your friends home, put your arms around her, and say "mom, dad, I'm gay." After that shock, "just single" won't seem so bad. Of course, this could backfire and make them all the more eager to marry you off to a guy, just in case.

You could tell them if they don't lay off, you'll join a nunnery.

Or say (over the phone, of course), that you're having a hard time finding a man who wants a pregnant woman.

As I said, I'd like to give some snappy advice, but on this topic, I'm in the same boat.

[hyperblaster]

LMAO!!!

[wombat_socho]

*hugs*

I'm so sorry things are sucky and painful right now, and I hope they turn around soon. As far as your family goes...that's got to be really hard. You want to make them happy, but at the same time you want to be happy on your own terms, and right now those two don't seem to be in sync. You also have the additional complication of knowing that your biological clock is running.

You might want to consider taking some time to think about what you really want for yourself. Do you really want to run wild and be all crazy with life before settling down to a "dull, placid homelife" (my words, not yours, and not mine either really because I know better ~_^) or do you want to find someone who can be a good and supportive husband that lets you have space to be a wild woman? Not sure I can really give you any good advice besides trying to get you to figure out what you really want, but there it is...

[hyperblaster]

Actually, at my age, the biological clock thing isn't bothering me yet. But then I did want to large family, so...

I'm not really a wild woman. lol, I'm quiet and rather dull. But I DO want to do some exciting things, have some good relationships, before I settle down. I keep telling myself that if I've never been in a relationship before I marry someone, how will I know what to expect? I don't understand men, and I don't want to find out the hard way (read: unhappy marriage). As for what I really want, I don't know for the short term. But yes, five years from now I see myself married to someone I care a lot about.

[wombat_socho]

It's hard enough to find a good relationship these days; I wish you luck finding your "training wheels", so to speak. Most guys are actually pretty straightforward most of the time, but your mileage could definitely vary.

[hyperblaster]

Training wheels :P

[artymus]

I'm thankful that my mom hasn't bothered me that much about it . . . she's currently more worried about if I'll find someone to date since me and finding women that interest me don't go to gether well. But my advice is to just forget about thier pestering right after you are done talking to them.

[hyperblaster]

Unfortunately, I take what they say very seriously. You're young and a guy, so it might not matter for you. But I'm really worried about the fact that I'm not in a relationship.

[artymus]

This responce has been brought to you by your use of 10 y's. To tell you the truth, the fact that I have not been in a relationship bothers myself as well . . . and I've only pointed out the number of y's because I'm in analytical paper writing mode and I am not getting anywhere fast. But yes, I do take what my mother says seriously (and if he was still alive, probably my father as well). I had some more advice that was actually good (unlike the privious bout), but I can't remember it now -_-;

[izuko]

Then get out of that New York place, and go to where decent men are. *nod*nod*