In my experience it's the person who is doing the flirting, not the flirting itself, that comes across as creepy. I don't think it has anything to do with whether the guy is pagan or not, as I've had non pagan guys hit on me who have also weirded me out.
As for you specifically, you have never creeped me out.
I would agree with this - I've had people who said or asked completely innocuous things who creeped me out because of their manner or 'vibe.' You don't have a creepy vibe. No worries ;)
I have never ever percieved you as creepy. It was always clear that you were just being playful. I think it never comes off wrong because people know you and trust you - I have no idea how it would be percieved by an outside person who didn't know you, but I bet you would also adjust your flirting for that situation.
I tend to take it all in good fun. But part of the reason it's not creepy is that I know it's not serious. It's obviously joking.
Most of the time, 'creepy' flirting comes from one of two types of guys:
1. Guys I really don't know well at all who are overly familiar. Touching me, strong sexual innuendo, really suggestive leers, or outright propositions from people I don't know well squick me right the fuck out. The things you say, coming from a *stranger*, would be cause for a little discomfort, but coming as a joke they're harmless.
2. Guys I do know, who know I'm not interested, who continue to hit on me and preface it with statements like, "Oh, if only you were attracted to me," or "Oh, it's just too bad you're not interested, because..." and who mean it. That's the important part on that one, that they're genuinely saying to me, "I know you're not interested in me but *I* think you should be so I'm going to keep pointing out that I like you despite your lack of interest." That makes me decidedly uncomfortable,
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As for you specifically, you have never creeped me out.
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Most of the time, 'creepy' flirting comes from one of two types of guys:
1. Guys I really don't know well at all who are overly familiar. Touching me, strong sexual innuendo, really suggestive leers, or outright propositions from people I don't know well squick me right the fuck out. The things you say, coming from a *stranger*, would be cause for a little discomfort, but coming as a joke they're harmless.
2. Guys I do know, who know I'm not interested, who continue to hit on me and preface it with statements like, "Oh, if only you were attracted to me," or "Oh, it's just too bad you're not interested, because..." and who mean it. That's the important part on that one, that they're genuinely saying to me, "I know you're not interested in me but *I* think you should be so I'm going to keep pointing out that I like you despite your lack of interest." That makes me decidedly uncomfortable, ( ... )
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