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[i_am_the_owl]

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Main:The older I get, the less time I spend happy

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[ex_uncleflo]

Fuck commitment.

[i_am_the_owl]

Fuck fucking around.

[ex_uncleflo]

I like fucking around, as long as you don't have any obligation to call her the next day.

[i_am_the_owl]

Well I hope that works out for you.

[pkrat]

Let's hear it for commitment.

I've been with my partner for 12 years now... and there's love... but it's not the world-crushing, heavens crumbling love of movies and literature. It's underlying fondness and mutual respect and shared interests and a willingness to overlook annoyances and on again off again sexual tension.

The whole 'rest of your life' thing is overrated. We don't know what the rest of our lives hold. We have a much better idea what tomorrow will bring. Why not make our partners feel nice or do something to improve our relationships tomorrow, when we know we'll be able to?

If only I took my own advice more often.

In any case, there's TV love and there's practical love, and I don't think it's settling in the slightest to accept the latter into your life. Only someone distorted by society's unrealistic ideals would pass up the comforts of 'working love' as sub-par.

[i_am_the_owl]

Isn't that basically just a good friend that you're also sleeping with, though?

[stars_in_return]

Could you go more into the responsibility thing? What are you responsible for that makes you unhappy?

I know that I want to make a home with someone someday. Right now I don't know when the idea of being in a relationship will feel right, and that's ok. It's strange. I used to want to be polyamorous some years ago but not anymore. So many things have changed and I have learned so much. Love is confusing. The way you have defined it here makes sense. It is complicated but it doesn't have to be overly complicated. If you had eight relationships in the past year that collapsed, that's pretty complicated. Did you take on that many at one time? Maybe that is why they collapsed. That's part of why I stopped trying to do many at a time.

[i_am_the_owl]

Did you read the entry?

I said I'm less unhappy and that I've seen eight relationships collapse.

[stars_in_return]

Yes, and I've re-read it just to make sure. Well it's good that you weren't trying to be in eight relationships! I misread that part. I've seen a few very successful relationships this year. People bring it on themselves how it turns out. You started with saying the older you get the less time you spend happy. Not happy, adequately satisfied. But you're less unhappy, you now say. You know how you feel.

Can you answer the question about responsibility?

I wanted to talk with you about your drone complaint, preferably not here.

[i_am_the_owl]

I also said "less unhappy" in the entry too. Less happy and less unhappy, but more time adequately satisfied.

So, no, I can't answer it because it doesn't make sense given that I didn't ever talk about being responsible for unhappiness.

[bondage_siren]

Love is sharing your food with someone, even when you're really hungry

And that's not some heartfelt way of saying that love takes sacrifice(usually it does, but that's beyond the point.) I'm completely literal in that. If you care about someone enough to nourish them, even put theirs before yours, what else could it be but love? Extra points if you make something especially for them.

This is a completely Italian point of view, mind you, but I think it works.

[i_am_the_owl]

You and your woplove.

[bondage_siren]

Tastes like pasta!

[futonsandwich]

i still dont see it and am, yet again, doubting its existance.

[i_am_the_owl]

Perhaps its one of those things that you need to be blinded by in order to see? Everyone has memories of love, but strain to communicate it meaningfully.