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[i_carpe_diem]

I'm really confused aobut something...love. Not with me specifically but for other people. I don't understand how people fall in love that easily, do people say I love you because they're in love with the person or because they just love them? And can you love someone without being in love with them? It's just strange how people toss around the

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[anonymous]

I completely agree with what your saying you “truly” fall in love once but we all need stepping stones to reach that point. Saying I love you to someone need to come from within your heart, which a lot of people don’t do. it’s a word that has been tossed around for years. Maybe some people just don’t understand what love is all about?

[i_carpe_diem]

good point

[sunkissed_09]

love is just a feeling you have, in your heart. It's the strangest thing ever. You cant really explain it. It's just something you feel. But when you say "i love you" you have to be careful, because sometimes you might not be sure if you really love that person. For me, i know i love dan. and im IN love with him, and i havent ALWAYS been in love with him, it was just a month or so ago...i realized it. and it's the same thing adrienne, it's a feeling. some people are just confused and say i love you because the other person said it, or maybe they want to love or want to BE loved so bad, that they just force it. well either way, it's a complicated thing that's so hard to question.. because well...it's a feeling. :)

love you
teety

[xdream_fantasy]

some people say it because they want to fill an empty place inside too quickly. maybe they had felt it before and they want too badly to feel it again, that they make themselves believe they do, even before, in reality, the actually do.

but i know i feel it when i say it to you. :)

[i_carpe_diem]

awww hale bop i mean it too!

[__lunchboxx]

this is an interesting entry to stumble upon while looking through random people's journals.

as i'm sure you know, there is a huge difference between loving someone, and being in love with someone.

i COMPLETLEY agree with you when you say people throw around the term as if it doesn't mean anything. i mean yes, everyone and their moms say "i love you!" to their friends (or even anyone) if they do you a favor. but i think since we're using the term more and more and more it's just cheapening it and it's losing it's special-ness.

another thing that irks me is when people say, "oh god, i love ____ so much. he's my everything. we will be together forever and ever!!!" and then a week later, they break up, and the person says, "oh man, i hate ____, i never loved them." i think you can fall in love more than once, but not like with 5 different people - maybe just 2 or something. yes, you can have incredibly strong feelings for someone, but rarely is it ever true love

[i_carpe_diem]

haha thanks for the rambling. it was interesting what you said and so true. i thought what you said about when they're understanding, finish your sentences, and keep your secrets secret was definitely true.

but i'm also wondering what if you feel like this person isn't good for you...they're not the most caring person but you still have these undeniable feelings for them. then what's that?

[__lunchboxx]

i honestly can't answer that because i've never been put in that situation. all i can say is that it's an unhealthy relationship.

of course everyone has their flaws, but not being "the most caring person" is a huge flaw in a relationship.

[i_carpe_diem]

true true

[heart_n_seoul]

well now i thought id add my thoughts...though im no expert

[i_carpe_diem]

that's so true that it becomes difficult when you're not sure if they'll say it back.