Allegiance without family

[i_maenad]

I rejected my family quite a while ago. After years of ignoring my clearly stated desire to have nothing more to do with them, in the past year my family (by which I mean my sister) has finally almost left off contacting me. I occasionally get a bit of news garnished with the usual thick sauce of hostility, but not on a regular basis at least

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[yukontodd]

Lidia had tattoos, and firmly eschewed stereotypes. When she was younger, she defined herself in terms of what she wasn't: she wasn't like her family, she wasn't like the people she grew up with, she wasn't like the people in the community she grew up in. Later in life, her roots were roots of dissent, yet she found herself growing into something else, free of community, opening herself to people like and unlike her in ways she had yet to define -- though she wasn't sure she wanted to define anything about herself. Rejecting being closed all her life, she found herself opening.

If you were a character in a rough draft I was writing. Of course, I only know you from what I hazily remember of what I've read about you on LJ, and written characters have to sound a lot more interesting than you or I, so no offense please, I'm just having fun.:)

[javagoth]

I do not tend to wrap up my identity in family nor the various communities/subcultures I'm part of. I find this leaves me a bit on the fringes of any group. I'm trying to become comfortable with my constant state of being "Left of Center". Some days are better than others.

[bobby1933]

"Cynical" has no negative connotations for me. The Cynics were free thinkers with a high moral code. Jesus might have been one. My own family experiences were either so boring or so traumatic that I hardly remember them. I have few contacts with my families of origin, but this seems to be by mutual consent so there is little occasion for guilt or struggle. Still.... Well, good luck to you.

Invisible to Queers

[pendraw]

I don’t think the queer community recognizes me as one of them so its interesting being invisible to them. I’ve had some unfriendly experiences lately with dykes.

I was in the doggy park trying to socialize my puppy but one dog was continually humping my puppy not allowing him to do anything else but take it. I tried asking the dyke couple who I approached 10 minutes ago who wouldn’t give me the time of day to kindly restrain their dog. I told them that I don’t let my dog hump. I mentioned that I use the, ‘Off,’ command. Then they ripped into me about infringing on their dog’s natural instinct and not to touch their dog.

The other day I got into a free pet food bank line up and clearly got there three seconds before a couple of dykes. The dykes wanted me to line up behind them.

It's interesting being in the spectator position, watching the dyke identity from the outside. Of course when I was a full-fledge flaming dyke I was always a non-aggressive negotiating saint.