Comments | iamnikchick: I HATE bullies

iamnikchick

I HATE bullies

Aug 31, 2011 01:42

Kate has had to deal with all sorts of bullies in her time. At her elementary school, she was bullied for being white. I encouraged her to understand her peers and sympathize with them, that they must be so frustrated in their home lives to lash out the way they did toward her ( Read more... )

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hackard August 31 2011, 09:19:52 UTC

Give them one hundred different kinds of hell, Nicole. And then REALLY lay into 'em. And their parents.

But before that, please give Kate a big hug from me. She's awesome, you're awesome, and it's one of the finer compliments of my life that I'm your friend.

Bullies... ext_732348 August 31 2011, 09:20:15 UTC

I went through that a lot too. I think it is same everywhere you go. Young people and kids have not yet learned the rules of life or any empathy. If they grow as humans, they will learn that good things come to them if they do good things to others. And that doing good is a value in itself. Now they are only trying to be cooler and higher in the social ranks by putting others down, it is sadly the only means of proving themselves socially. And for that you can think that they have no real intellect or imagination ( ... )

serpentstar August 31 2011, 10:06:16 UTC

That's really vile.

ext_769455 August 31 2011, 10:08:22 UTC

There is a huge crackdown on bullying here in Pennsylvania, and across the U.S. As a teacher, I just went through bullying prevention training last week. I know this didn't happen in school, but you can take this to the girls' school anyway. Schools are watching out for bullying 24/7. It doesn't have to happen in school for bullies to suffer consequences. If you still have the voice mail, or if there was e-mail or text messages involved, you have proof of the bullying.

And bullying isn't just wrong, much of it is also against the law. If there have been any threats of violence against Kate, you could actually go to the police.

elissa_carey August 31 2011, 11:20:49 UTC

Totally with you, and I would've been tempted to do the very same thing. It is horrible behavior toward Kate, and rude and disrespectful toward you, and not a single bit of it is warranted in any way imaginable.

I definitely think a wake-up call -- in person, to retrieve keys and to convey just how wrong and upsetting this is -- is definitely in order. If the parents have any sense of decency, they'll be falling all over themselves to apologize (and privately have a very urgent "what the hell do you think you're doing??" conversation with their child).

d_fuses August 31 2011, 15:19:56 UTC

Of course, speaking from experience, a lot of parents will reward their children for doing what they trained them to do.

elissa_carey August 31 2011, 18:30:37 UTC

Unfortunately, most parents of bullies don't see it as bullying. They enable further bullying by not taking it seriously. That's why there are so many bullying awareness announcements these days, so parents of bullies (and parents of the bullied) take it seriously. I think awareness IS spreading, but there will always be some dumbasses who didn't get (or chose to ignore) the memo.

krenolds August 31 2011, 18:35:02 UTC

Aw crap, I forgot to log in so my comment is in the mod queue. Well, basically what I said is that the parents of so many bullies don't take this seriously, and so their inaction basically gives their child permission to continue bullying.