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[iamnina]

I just made the mistake of eating a whole brownie right before arguing with my sex driven boyfriend. Well, ex boyfriend now. I'm tired of having to make up excuses as to why I don't want to fuck, is it so hard to listen to "i just don't feel like it"? My sex drive has gone way down, it's not my fault

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[anttixx]

I remember the excuses. That being said, I wasn't there to hear excuses, I wanted to hear an "I'm not in the mood." I like honesty. I can live with honesty. I take people for who they are, so, if they're not in the mood, they're not...I'll live. That's just me...on the boyfriend side. On being the one having to make the excuses...it's hard to imagine that the guy is the one making them, but it would happen. I'd sit her down and say, "Really...don't worry, it's not you...it's not anyone else...but I don't feel like fucking. Deal with it."

[star_5_meo]

sex is important to some people. i personally have the opp issue. i end up with men with low sex drives and it is aawwfuuul.

be understanding as well.

[channel6]

Getting sex drives to be in synch is difficult once the initial horniness is over for most couples. I've always been hornier than the men in my life--keep hoping to find one that is every bit as horny in the long haul as me. But I find even being the horny bint that I am, I have times when I get am not interested.

The key is how you communicate the fact. And there is more to sex than just the deed--a lot of times if you don't feel in the mood for out and out sex, a bit of cuddling helps ease the lack of physical intimacy the other partner feels.

Sex is a tricky thing--I'm STILL learning about it and how to communicate what I do and don't want--and when.