Ian’s Rules for Ritual Group Membership

[ianphanes]

1. No ritual group can meet all of the spiritual needs of the members.
2. All relationships-including ritual groups-involve communication and compromise.
3. If one is consistently expending more effort toward a ritual group than one is receiving benefit, it is time to consider walking away.

Lots of things, including changing from HOCC to AODA and working semi-

Comments

[mageoflamancha]

Sounds like you're in a good, if busy and somewhat mellow, place. I would go ahead and drop "spiritual" from number one. It's true that no group can meet all the spiritual needs, nor can it meet all the ritual needs or (other) social needs. Expecting too much from a group tends to based in your other points. Without good communication we all tend to "fill in the gaps" with what we expect or want. Setting us all up for a fall later, when the group mind or focus isn't what we wanted or expected when a conflict comes up

[cgirlslife]

Maybe a sub point to 2 "If you find out you can't do something you've agreed to, say so right away. Don't leave them in the lurch."

How about "If you see a need, fill it. If you can't fill it, bring it up for discussion. If you feel uncomfortable bringing a need up for discussion, this might not be a good group for you."?