Stuck between 2 people. =[

[iateafetusonce]

I really need some advice. Recently i've been kind of talking to the real father (frank) of my baby. A couple of weeks ago, me and dave were babysitting his brother and sister, and I decided to get onto yahoo to check my mail, and of course knowing my shitty luck, Frank IMs me. Dave knew it was him and was pretty pissed, but I told him I just

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[fly_away_girl]

i suggest you stick with dave. my friend is actually in the same situation, well almost. the father and her broke up during her pregnancy, so she met a guy, and he took care of her during her pregnancy and after the baby was born. well the father comes back wanting to be involved but he's still an asshole for not being around when she needed him most. but she had old feelings come back for him and got back with him, dumping her boyfriend who loves the baby and her more than the actual father. anyways, they had an off and on relationship, confusing the boyfriend and the baby, and it just hurts everyone. in the end, currently, she's with the actual father still but is miserable. her old boyfriend was so much better.

stick with dave.

-christy

[ky_whitney]

Ohhh... you sound like me a few months ago...

My best advice is to stay with the guy who makes you happy. More than likely, the only reason Frank is saying that he loves you is because he is aware that you are with someone else or if he doesnt know, doesnt want you with anyone else. It is the keep-you-hanging-on ruitene, having his cake and eating it too.

It will be hard for Dave if you start associating yourself with Frank, because he likes you and is looking out for your best interest. There is also a reason you are with Dave, and not Frank... more than likely because Dave treats you better.

So in summary... do what makes you happy? and do what would be better for your child also. Remember you have to take care of not only yourself now, so also do whatever is in the best interest of the child.

I know I dont know you really well, but I hope that I helped:)

Whitney

[_joshiesmommie_]

Heres my advice: Dont start cutting yourself. Where would your baby be if you seriously hurt yourself. And I think you should stay with Dave. He seems to be a wonderful father and loves you to death. Id try to forget about Frank. He was willing to kill your baby so why bother with him now. And im sure that sooner or later you wont even think of Frank and you babys father. You'll think of Dave. Plus you named your baby after him. He sounds like a keeper to me. Good luck with your decision you make tho.

[queen_nala]

OH man..that is rough. You are definately in a hard situation. I don't know either of these guys but it seems like Dave is a helluva lot reliable and that he really cares for both of you. And I know sometimes it makes you want someone even more when you can't have them. Whos to say that even if you got back with Frank, he wouldn't leave you again. All I can say is to keep your baby as your first priority and what he needs is stability. And please please please don't start cutting again. I know it would give you some much needed temporary relief, but it definately won't do anything good for you or your baby in the long run. STAY STRONG! Try to focus on the amazing blessing you have been given in your beautiful baby.

[anonymous]

Ok, this will be an outsiders opinion on your current situation. I dont know either man but I can assure you that Dave is the right choice. Your own entry gives you the answer. "All we did was get drunk and stoned, and have sex" you want to be with a guy who only wants to get you fucked up then fuck you up? 3 months of that fun then the fuck you up lead to the knock you up and he split, the fun was over for him and when it came to being a man to step up to his duties as a father, he flaked out. That is not the kind of man you want in your life. Then comments about dave being a father and stepping up, in your own words he is "completely PERFECT" he is there for you to support you and your child. He is, from what i can tell, a great man and a great father. Now that frank is back in your life, he is "in love" with you, but in my own humble opinion, he just wants to have the kid. But if you are still confused, just remember the babies name and who he is named after. Dave, despite what DNA says, is the father of that baby and the right

[iateafetusonce]

This comment is for everyone who responded to my entry. Thank you so much for your advice, and all of it I took in. I now realise, the man who I am destined to be with, and that's Dave. Frank never was their for me, and sure as hell didn't seem like he cared to much about me until now. Maybe he was scared or whatever, but the point is, is that he didn't show me anything. Dave stuck it out with me. Through the hard times and the good. I defiently think that staying with Dave is the best thing for me. Thanx once again. I'm sure you all have saved me from a lot of regret, heartache and grief!! =]