My husband also doesn't wantmore than one wife - which to a few brothers here baffles them... I actually have noticed alot of the American born and raised convert Muslims, have this wierd issue with polgyny and honestly I have never seen it done properly - they make them all live on assistance and seem to treat them like crap, not to mention they also tend to get divorced often and remarry often - it makes polgyny to look like a joke. Being the way we are raised it is hard to really truly accept it - granted I know there is nothing wrong with it and that it can be something positive, I just would die if my husband did it - astagfirullah. I want to tell those bro's who make it out like one HAS to marry more than one - that hey look Monogamy is Sunnah ( the Prophet's marraige to Khadijah RA) and Polgyny is also Sunnah. Also marraige is not fard, but treating them equal is. Some men here do not think about anything other than themselves when it comes to this. Anyways I am ranting but yea I would find it interesting to see what you
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May Allah make it soibn_mikalJune 2 2005, 15:21:12 UTC
personally your last line describes the only reason I would be inclined toward polgyny. I worry that I won't be able to find someone very pious that matches me well. I woudd like both:) Personally, I think if she were very pious that we could have a good marriage insha'allah and I would like her and love her but not adore her.
Adoration is big for me because I think that I can adore someone. I'm a romantic that way. But I don't think romance is unrealistic even though it is. Some unrealism is good, even in the sunnah one of the times a Muslim is allowed to lie is to make one's spouse feel good.
Clubbed feet ARE cute!
But eh...I feel so alienated most of the time that...eh...alienation doesn't really describe it and I don't mean that in a negative way. I feel like I'm close to a goodly number of people and that I'm a beloved portion of their lives if only we got to meet each other:/
Ha, I'm reminded of what I heard a rapper I used to listen to say years back "I know I'm loved by millions, they just don't know it yet" I think
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Adoration is big for me because I think that I can adore someone. I'm a romantic that way. But I don't think romance is unrealistic even though it is. Some unrealism is good, even in the sunnah one of the times a Muslim is allowed to lie is to make one's spouse feel good.
Clubbed feet ARE cute!
But eh...I feel so alienated most of the time that...eh...alienation doesn't really describe it and I don't mean that in a negative way. I feel like I'm close to a goodly number of people and that I'm a beloved portion of their lives if only we got to meet each other:/
Ha, I'm reminded of what I heard a rapper I used to listen to say years back "I know I'm loved by millions, they just don't know it yet" I think ( ... )
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