SEX

Jan 23, 2007 18:44

About a month ago, a study reported that over 90% of Americans have premarital sex before the time they're 44. Certainly a higher number than I would have expected, but not much higher. It's interesting then, how little we talk about sex. In most religious discussions about relationships and love the idea that sex outside of marriage is wrong is a ( Read more... )

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he said the S-word!!! elvo86 January 24 2007, 01:58:45 UTC
...and I'll take swords for two hundred, alex ( ... )

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Re: he said the S-word!!! elvo86 January 24 2007, 03:56:18 UTC
You are absolutely right Elliot. I agree with everything you said. I think the fact that sex is so hard to discuss is ridiculous. To be honest, I just don't think you talk to me enough Nate! I talk about SEX all the time! Not really, but I do make it a point to be blunt what i think, feel or don't know when it comes to a lot of things. I have had some pretty open conversations with friends about the subject and I think discussing it can alleviate a lot of anxiety for those of us who are still waiting for marriage before we really find out how much we know...

On another note, I know that the emotional connection in sexual activity is critical to building a strong relationship. I guess i don't know enough about it, but I stand by that.

Joshua<>

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Sex anonymous January 24 2007, 04:01:03 UTC
I think that sex is still wrong outside of marriage even if you're not a Christian. By having sex with someone, you are sharing the most intimate experience you could possibly share. Why is that wrong? Because right up until the moment you say your vows, there is a chance that the two of you will never get married and that you might actually end up marrying someone else. That ends up being painful because now you have all of this intimate past with someone other than the person you are marrying. What if you think of that first person while you're being intimate with the person you marry (or just someone else you are dating)? What if the other person you were with before was actually better at sex, and now you find yourself comparing instead of appreciating the person you're with? Or... what if the other person they were with was better? Just imagine how much jealousy and hurt that would cause. My parents were not Christians when they got married and even though they are Christians now, my dad still does not trust my mom ( ... )

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icarus4586 January 24 2007, 14:41:15 UTC
Thanks all for your replies. This is exactly the kind of conversation I was going for with my admittedly provocative post.

It's worth pointing out also that "look at all these people doing it" is rarely a good reason to do something yourself.
Also, research has shown that people who live together (and, most likely, have lots of [hot, oily jungle] sex) before getting married are actually less satisfied with the marriage than those who have no "experience." And I'm gonna echo Elliot when I say that not having experience before marriage does not in any way rule out gaining said experience while married.

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