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Oct 18, 2004 07:08

Ugh, I've found out that I probably have Social Phobia (actually, I knew I did, but I just found out that it's an actual illness, like depression, and can be cured with pills and therapy o.O), but I'm going to see the doctor about it this week. Meanwhile, I'm going to school today after 3 weeks of vacation. I'm really dreading seeing the others, ( Read more... )

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deensey October 18 2004, 05:28:18 UTC
I also abhor group work, and oddly enough, considering how much I go out, I don't get along with all people, as many of them frustrate me, an this really doens't help in group type projects!

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deensey October 18 2004, 05:29:03 UTC
Oh my helpful suggestion is buying a gun ;p Or bring up Harry Potter whenever anyone asks you anything.

Alright, so I'm not being helpful at all.

Enjoy being back at school

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icybeach October 18 2004, 05:33:49 UTC
Lol, actually now would be a good time to buy a wand and hex them everytime they get on my nerves! Lol, that would so raise their eyebrows.

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deensey October 18 2004, 05:36:38 UTC
Oh but it would be so funny, for us...

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snapesforte October 18 2004, 07:15:33 UTC
I am not a group person, either. As to your other little problem, I would recommend that you definitely do not raise your voice - because that will encourage the half-wit, who will then realise that he is in fact getting on your nerves. You should just calmly let him know, in front of the group, that his highly valuable (note sarcasm) opinions have been noted, and that contradicting every word you say is not a sign of his superiority and intelligence, but in fact the complete opposite, and that it actually demonstrates his insecurity, in a sort of flashy hot pink neon-sign-above-his-head fashion. Then take out your wand. :-D

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icybeach October 18 2004, 13:15:08 UTC
Hehe, how Slytherin and Snape of you :P But the thing is that I don't think he knows that he's doing this, but I may have given him a hint today. At least he called for a group meeting after he'd been second guessing what I was doing (more like interrogating), and I accused him of making it sound like everything that was wrong with the project was my fault. He got this pause look on his face, and then we (and the other guy) calmly discussed how to make the project work. I'll see tomorrow if anything's changed. But no, snapping is not the solution.

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stepps October 18 2004, 07:35:31 UTC
Can't you chose your groups? And if not, can't you tell your tutors that you are having personality clashes with group members and switch? It's the non-confrontational rout to take (me being very non-confrontational).

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icybeach October 18 2004, 13:10:14 UTC
No...we make our own groups, and we've been using the same ones since last term. Both of the guys have cons and pros, but I sometimes forget that I do too :P A lot of this is may fault, because of my own insecurity when it comes to programming. He picks up on that and kills everything I suggest before it gets suggested.

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stepps October 18 2004, 20:41:44 UTC
Well, get Snapeish on his arse if he refuses to at least hear you out! Tell him that you know you lack confidence in this area, but he's not helping you to learn and grow more confident by not even allowing you to share your ideas or thoughts. Tell him you accept that they may be wrong or way off, but by letting you share at least you're contributing, and perhaps there will be something useful in there.

He's probably either a) intimidated by you, b) attracted to you, or c) a total wanker anyway :D

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icybeach October 18 2004, 13:27:16 UTC
Yes, ignoring is very hard - especially since it's been going on for months now! I hate letting him get away with talking to me like that. He's 6 years younger than I am! Only he's very mature (in everything but the way he's been behaving against me), and very smart. But because of how he's been behaving (I don't have a very big confidence in my programming skills - for good reason, because I suck at it :P), I've stopped suggesting things and think long and hard about what I want to say before I say it (because I hate being wrong). I also suck at making arguments or getting my point firmly stated ( ... )

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