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Different kinds of sentimentality...

Jun 27, 2007 02:14

An intuitive-feeler's sentimentality can be very difficult to explain to a sensate-feeler, and vice-versa. Take today, for instance, while I was discussing moving out with my ESFP mom ( Read more... )

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Why does it bother you? tricstmr June 27 2007, 14:07:36 UTC

I ask this as a legitimate question, not being snarky.

I'm an INTJ--so Fi is merely my tertiary function.. but I'm very familiar with ESFP's (my partner and her daughter being one) and her reaction fits her perfectly.. and doesn't strike me as offensive..

1. Since her dominant function is Se--she's very in tune with her surroundings--and any piano makes a big impact on surroundings--it plays a definite role in her immediate world.

2. Her auxiliary function is Fi--which is where she holds her very personal values and attachments. The piano means a lot to her personally because it not only makes an impact on her physical world (Se), but because it is associated with you (through your relatively large use of it, I wager) and that means a lot to her.

While I, in the same situation, would not have reacted as your mom would have.. I have no problem understanding that reaction.. nor would it bother me...

thus, I ask again.. what bothers you about it? or what confuses you?

Re: Why does it bother you? equals_32 June 27 2007, 18:07:42 UTC

Not so much confused, though when she initially got excited, I wasn't sure why until she said what she did - the annoyance factor mostly comes from the fact that I didn't think of it that way, and since I'm less focused on material things by far, felt like I couldn't leave anything mutually meaningful behind.