Comments | ieuleron: jitters

ieuleron

jitters

Jan 05, 2013 15:34

So, having a first date tonight. I'm cooking dinner for the girl, but I'm still figuring out what exactly to make. The current idea is chicken and fennel sautéed with tomatoes and homemade tapioca for desert. I was thinking of anise flavored tapioca, but that might be too much with the fennel ( Read more... )

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litch January 5 2013, 23:32:32 UTC

anticipation

ieuleron January 6 2013, 08:31:03 UTC

It didn't seem to be the right word, but it might be the closest conceptual equivalent.

rabbitucker January 6 2013, 15:24:57 UTC

No, it was NOT a bust. You got to know her better, and that's a good thing.

If you do want to let her know you like her, it may have to drop less subtle hints. Gentle touching is good (hands, arms, shoulders).

ieuleron January 6 2013, 20:56:20 UTC

I agree. That was a my early and quick interpretation. Primarily, more information is needed. Fortunately, there will be more information.

Strangely enough, I don't have a great deal of experience available to inform my perceptions in this genre of existence. My first emotional response was negative, but I've gotten over that. I should perhaps have expected exactly the sort of experience that unfolded, but without the experience in the background from which to derive that expectation...

stalk_her January 6 2013, 19:31:28 UTC

nervous.

Oh Darren, you are such a subtle guy really. Maybe talk about dating with these girls... talk about how you fall in the friends zone a lot and girls don't know you're interested. Ask her what she thinks about you and if she finds you attractive and then BOOM! Tell her you think she's just amazing.... maybe ask her if she wants to go on a real date and then take her on a stereotypical date.

ieuleron January 6 2013, 20:13:32 UTC

I'm pretty sure at this point that I'm just worrying too much for no real reason. Mostly I need to have more evidence one way or another, i.e., further interactions with her.

litch January 7 2013, 00:59:54 UTC

So it has been my impression than a number of women will feign ignorance of affection in order to "let then down easy" (or possibly to "string them along and get an ego fix when no reciprocal affection exists" when I am more cynical), do you think that might be happening?

ieuleron January 7 2013, 12:02:55 UTC

I do know she has some anxiety regarding dating with relation to her expected job transition (to some not-yet-determined location, perhaps in Europe). I also know she has some anxiety relating to dating folks who turned out to be somewhat scummy, along with some minor self-confidence issues which have led her to pursue guys who didn't treat her well.

Your first case would easily have been managed by not coming to my place for dinner. The second one does not seem consistent with her observed behavior over the last few years. For now I'm going to go with, "review pending further data". However, these are in the range of things that concern me.